A while ago before discovering TRP, I had the WORST case of Oneitis. I was obsessing over this one girl constantly, I placed her on a huge pedestal and went WAY over the top with compliments/ gifts like a Billy Beta.

Not surprisingly, she got bored of me and dropped my ass.

Suffice to say: It SUCKED for me at the time. But here's what I did to get over my Oneitis:

One day, I asked myself "what did this girl provide of ACTUAL value to me?"

All I could come up with for her was:

-Sex

-Good times

-The occasional good book or podcast recommendation

-Ukulele lessons for like 3 songs

I can find the first from literally HALF the population. The second and third I can get from literally ANYONE. The fourth, a simple Google search would find me a better instructor. While she was very charming and cute, I realized that the amount of fawning I did over her was actually really unjustified. I was not thinking with my head, but rather my cock.

Then I thought "what did I provide of value to her?" My response was: -Sex

-Shitloads of business/political connections who would help her out at the drop of a pin if I told them to

-Money to her campaign she was working on

-Mountains of books and movie recommendations

-HBO, Hulu, Netflix subscriptions (which I had been letting her use until I grew a pair and changed the passwords)

-French lessons

-Piano lessons

Then I realized, "holy shit, I actually provide a lot more value here. She needs me a hell of a lot more than I need her. What was so special about her again?"

She has almost never crossed my mind since.

To anyone struggling with a case of Oneitis, I suggest you do this same exercise. You will realize two things:

  1. She isn't as special as you think she is

  2. In the grand scheme of things, YOU are prize here. NOT her.

TRP philosophy helped me come to this epiphany, and this question "what do they provide of ACTUAL value to me?" Is a very important question to ask yourself in ALL of your interactions.