Dodged a huge bullet tonight. A girl who I've been talking to tried to counter my invitation to my cousins house party this weekend by inviting me to a club in Houston. I don't like clubs. I find them obnoxious, but figured maybe when we get there I can get a few drinks in us and take her home without having to waste much time in a place I hate. Before I accepted I remembered past experiences of girls showing up with other guy friends. So I wisely asked her, "with who?". I'm glad I did. Her response was, "my brother is the DJ and all his buddies will be there". I rolled my eyes and said "nah, I don't party with other guys unless they're my buddies", she was pretty floored that a guy actually declined her invitation. She said "well maybe next weekend" I just said cool and walked away. In my mind, I have already nexted her. Guys we don't have time to waste with a buncha of orbiters, or even worse, risk becoming an orbiter ourselves. I'll be bringing some other dudes girlfriend to the party on Friday and I already know that is a sure bet.

TL;DR You can spend money and time, or you can get laid, but you can't do both.