The Art of Manliness: Elements of Charisma (Part 2) - Power

Kombaiya · 2013-11-14T17:33:53+00:00

I'd like to share something I've found out which may be relevant to Charisma.

I remember one of my first jobs, I was very nervous about socialising. I started in an office where everyone was much more outgoing than I was and felt a little intimidated. Especially for the fact that it was quite a dysfunctional office. There was this guy who was extremely unpopular, everyone seemed to take the piss out of him. I felt sorry for the guy. He was actually much nicer than most people there, so I decided rather than going along with the crowd and joining in mocking him, that I'd become friends with him. He was actually a great musician, played flamenco guitar and stuff and was actually a really cool guy. I guess he just didn't fit in with the office beauty standards and his clothes were ridiculously bad.

So I became friends with him and he was much more intelligent than anyone else in the office by a mile so we'd have these really ridiculous conversations. I was somewhat scared that the people would start to ridicule me as well like they do in schools but this didn't happen. In fact when I got one of my longterm friends a job there, he couldn't believe how popular I was. I just didn't engage in any office politics and never badmouthed anyone. People also stopped mocking my friend.

I found this out by accident but I've seen since how Diana became 'the peoples princess' because she would find the most downtrodden person in the crowd and say hello to them instead of the most handsome.

I've used this many times since, there often people in places like this which no one wants to talk to but look like they are dying for a conversation. I was in one once and the average age was around 25 but there was a 50 year old man sitting at a table in the middle of the packed place rolling up a cigarette. Everyone seemed to have formed a circle around him and I felt like they were giving bad vibes towards him. So I sat down at his table and started a conversation, he seemed really pleased to be talking to someone, after a while one of my friends dragged me away and it felt that everyone wanted my attention. I also noticed that others who seemed to be apprehensive of the guy were now talking to him and he was enjoying himself.

Anyway, another great article by the art of manliness. I really like there stuff.

[deleted] · 2013-11-14T08:23:41+00:00

Great blog. Has some red pill sprinkled throughout. Nothing Im sure many havent heard before, but still a helpful reminder. Be sure to read part 1 on Presence also, and look out for part 3 on Warmth Im guessing in a few days.

Power is the element that many just swallowing the pill need the most Im guessing. While it's hugely important it needs to be coupled with the other elements too, lest one comes off as just another "alpha douche". We're all better than that.

[deleted] · 2013-11-14T10:17:17+00:00

Regarding power poses: does anyone have idea what is the best way to sit while using the computer, besides the normal ergonony thing (which everybody knows but nobody really does)? I work on a laptop and generally feel constrained, leaning forward, chicken-necking forward. I won't requisition a bigger screen because I don't really need people sitting at the desks behind me watch everything I do. Also I don't sit in a fixed place, two days every week when a very loud female coworker (as in, constantly whining, laughing, sniffing, talking to herself, hollering greetings to people waling by, always making noises, not being able to bear silence) is in the office I go and sit in a meeting room with the laptop.

theVet · 2013-11-14T11:38:27+00:00

That's a surprisingly good article given that their fitness related stuff is usually complete and utter flavor of the month bullshit.

Marsupian · 2013-11-14T09:12:28+00:00

The article is absolutely greet, I only have a beef with this part:

people tended to follow a jaywalker sooner and more frequently if he was wearing a well-tailored suit

Maybe this is cultural but I never really understood the US focus on suits. They are just the "uniforms" of office workers. Wearing them for no good work related reason is like wearing car mechanic coveralls for no good reason.

To me a well dressed man means well dressed casual, designer leather jacket, designer t-shirt, designer dark blue jeans. Leather but comfy rubber soles. This is a well dressed man. Not some pretending to work in a bank 24/7. That would just come accross as a try-hard.

I mean, do you want to come accross as someone who has a serious job, or do you want to come accross as someone who does not need a job?

Title	The Art of Manliness: Elements of Charisma (Part 2) - Power
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Date	November 14, 2013 8:20 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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