Well this will be somewhat of a long read i guess...

A little background on the night and me: I'm a sophomore of college and still a virgin and 18. Kind of embarrassing personally but i never say anything about it to people obviously. After my freshman year last year, I'm good with knowing what are and aren't good parties. Tonight, my one friend said there was a party about 5 minutes walking from my apartment but he said he was too drunk/high to pick me up. He gave me the address and I decided to go alone.

  • I was laying on my couch for an hour and a half doing nothing, I debated if I should go out alone or not at all. On a side note, I looked up stoicism and have been trying to not let outside factors affect me as much. This goes hand in hand with my previous interest in Buddhism.

The Night: After I got the text of where the party was, and finding it on my phone GPS I decided to go ahead and head out alone at about 11:15. After all, one of my friends was there and he said it was live. My phone was on 7% so i had to move fast since it wasn't going to charge any faster.

I'm walking to the party and i see one person who've i met before on several previous occasions. He has another party different than mine and i roll with him. We get to the party and its a typical house party around my college. Guys playing beer pong, girls talking within themselves and with a few brave souls man enough to speak to them.

  • On another side note, at my school the party scene is run by frats. Recently they haven't been throwing down after a bad tailgate about a month or two ago and have resorted to the bars. My id was taken so I have to look for parties to find anything to do on the weekend nights.

The strange thing about parties at my school is that they fall into three catagories: Frat Party, which are always good but get shut down, white parties, which are hit or miss and might not get shut down, and black parties, which may be a black frat but never get shut down. The party we stopped at first was a white party and was dead. So we left to find my party and I took a group of guys with me.

Along the way i lead them and finally we saw the party, There was lots of people standing outside the apartment building and bridges(odd setup) and we walked in. This was a black party as far as they go around my school. There was plenty of girls dancing(although they tend to not dance too much with random guys unless you approach outside), there was jungle juice, and good music.

Since I came alone basically, I decided to find familiar faces and I ending up finding some friends d who I was cool with/still am cool with. I got some jungle juice and I was set. After about 20 minutes I went outside and saw one of our friends, who is known to talk girls heads off and end up hooking up with them, talking to three girls. Now this was funny because it was three white girls at a black party, so for once they were the minority, but nobody was talking to them except for my friend. I ask another friend if he was gonna come with me to join the conversation but he says he doesnt like white girls and i go alone.

Too cut a lot of talk, I end up talking to these girls for the rest of the party almost(about 2 hours). I'm leading to conversation, while my one friend is making out with the other girl. I'm basically handling two girls, which wasn't too hard and pretty fun. I'd say I kept frame pretty well. I came up to them with a fun vibe, had good stories to tell, and they went for it.At one point i had to handle all three girls. I did it with ease. Later into the night, i pulled the main girl to me after i said a joke and went for a hug and kept her around me. I had my arm around her waist and rubbed around her butt and hips while we talked in the crowd.(It was hard to notice since it was dark and crowded)

I kept this up, until one of the girls said she was ready to go and they all left. The party wasn't dying down at all(at this point it was 1:00), but I didn't really urge them to come back to my place... I got the girl who was trying to game with number and at the end of the night, I went for a hug and it seemed like she was going for a kiss although I'm not too sure... Said bye and told her to text me since my phone died a while ago(Gave her my number, and she did text me).

I can say I had a good time. There weren't any shit tests that i noticed. The frame i held during the initial meeting was pretty fun so there wasn't much to hide. My one friend used the "tell me something interesting" conversation to pick things back up, and it worked. I'll probably text this girl back to set up a hang out of some sort at starbucks and see where i go.

What i take from tonight * Don't be worried about going out alone, especially if you're in college and met a fair amount of people like me. *Escalate fast... I feel like i couldn't move quick because my friend was hooking up with the third girl and the other two noticed this but let it slide. If I tried to make a move on my girl then it would've left the other girl at third wheel and made her block any advances. *The number isn't much at all. I only say this because although i have her number, there is no sure fire answer she may text me back. It's all a numbers game and your initial interaction. *Finally, do not get too drunk. We were all drinking but because of my high tolerance over so many weekends of drinking, my tolerance is high again. Although really feeling three or four shots would've been nice, it was better to just sip on a cup or two and talk.