Confidence is the ability to appear certain by tolerating uncertainty.

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Most people believe confidence is the state or quality of being certain, and thus to “be confident” means to be or feel certain about your ability to do something, to be or feel sure of yourself. That is the generally accepted dictionary definition, but it obviously does not describe confidence accurately in reality. If it were accurate, it would be impossible to be confident unless you could see into the future, and there would be no naturally confident people. However, confident people do exist, and some even embark on new endeavors full of confidence. This is perfectly possible because confidence is merely the appearance of certainty, regardless of how or why one appears to be so. Actual certainty or feelings of certainty may have nothing to do with it.

When it comes to being attractive to women, internal insurance is unnecessary as women do not care why men are confident. They only care about the external appearance of certainty, how males behave, because that is the only thing they can see, and it has proved to be a good indicator throughout the history of our species in the selection of suitable sexual partners. In fact, not only is internal insurance unnecessary, it is even undesirable. Some people are sure of themselves on the inside, but you would never know it judging by their appearance, so we still label them as unconfident. Such males are not attractive to females. Others may have no idea what they are doing or have misunderstood their situation entirely, yet they appear dead certain because they act dead certain, so we label them as confident. Such males are attractive to females. An easier way for males to comprehend this idea is to consider how they care only about the external appearance of health, youth, and fertility in females. They are more attracted to a female who looks like she would be a good mother, even if she cannot have children due to an unknown disease, compared to a female with a perfect health record, but who looks ugly and old, with a flat chest and no hips worth talking about.

While women do not care about a male’s real abilities as long as he is confident (he appears certain), their parents and peers might care. Luckily, you do not have to please those people; in fact, you do not even have to meet them. Women are well known for falling for so-called “bad boys” and “losers” despite the complaints of their peers and prohibition of their parents. You see, when we are attracted to someone, we nonconsciously focus on the good qualities and filter out the bad, unless the bad qualities include an unattractive appearance. For a male, this primarily means being too feminine as that will change how attractive he is to females, and if he loses his attractiveness, all his other faults suddenly become apparent. Many males have experienced this effect while in a relationship with a female, telling all her friends what a great guy she had. However, as soon as they broke up, it is as if she turned into another person and could not help telling everyone in the world what an asshole he was. He probably did not change that much, but her perception of him did as her focus changed.

Since being confident means appearing certain, the only thing that matters is how to appear certain with women. It requires you to adopt some behaviors while avoiding others. A confident male does not express uncertainty, neither in general nor with women, and he is dominant around women since he acts like he knows what he is doing.