So there is this one girl ( yes, this one girl, I know ) I tried to add as a plate.

Yes, I am currently spinning 2 other plates.

I hooked up with her multiple times, but she never initiated contact by herself which was kind of annoying. She is used to getting a lot of male attention, working in a retail job, decent instagram following, the normal attention hoe stuff. I was kind of annoyed of this behavior and wanted to see if she will hit me up when I withdraw all my attention.

So I went no contact for 10 days, did not text her, didn't watch her instagram stories, nothing. On the 10th day I decided, not because of her but because I planned it for a long time, to delete my social media accounts.

The same day (20 hours after it) she hits me up with the following message: "Hey, I just noticed you blocked me on insta. Too bad, I think the interest of both of us is not really big because we both work a lot... but I wish you all the best and stay the way you are"

So it seems like she still visited my instagram account on a regular basis ( I didn't use it, so there was no activity from me ), so she was randomly stalking me. --> Why? this confuses me.

to which I simply replied "I deleted my account. but good to know." to which she replied

"I think it is strange that nobody of us initiates contact."

To which I replied 2 hours later:

"I've told you several times that I'm interested in you. And nothing has changed. So far I have the feeling that all meetings and conversations have primarily been started by me. To be honest, I have no interest in such a one-sided thing. I'm not into playing games - I like it when it's at eye level and you can tell the other person is interested. Maybe you're used to it differently - that's okay too - but that's not me. I have too much on my plate for that, I don't chase after anyone. "

This was basically the end of the conversation till now. I will continue to go soft next again, maybe she will reengage. If not - then that is fine for me as well.

I am just trying to improve my strategy: - The fact that she did not initiate contact herself at all was for me an indicator that the interest is not big enough from her side. - is this assumption correct? Or are there girls who are simply wired that way - and how do you counteract? Hard Next? Or what is the best strategy to deal with those? - It seems like she just wasn't interested in me that much - but why did she randomly stalk my instagram account then? - Is there anything in the text conversation that I should have avoided? retrospectively I think the last message from me was kind of blue pill. At least the first half. But she knows that my priorities is not chasing girls, but building my business at the moment.

Sorry for the long post. Looking forward to your redpill input