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My wife is pca for her handicapped son. My step son. She is a hoarder but not crqzy like tv, but its still there. I and others have helped her clean more than a few times. I have felt used in this regard with not much reward on my end. So that shes a pca she now tells me that a county worker of some kind will come into our house to wqtch our son work so they can judge his abilities.

This has brought her anxiety and she brings it to me. Im feeling, as usual these days, that she is using me to fix her problems or do her chores, which she is. Beta me complies but builds resentment and all that nmmng and wisnifg stuff.

Any thoughts on how to break this cycle or put a boundary down?

I could say im not helping or oh, thats truly a pickle your in and try to fog. I dont know how that would go. So far ive said that im listening, she followed up that she doesnt knkw what to do, i then asked how long shes known about this. Her classic move which i or she will recommend is rescheduling or moving the apt to another location and everythi g gets tucked away.