If you want a full explanation about what happened with this chick check my post history. I’m really new to TRP but in consuming it obsessively for a week I see all the mistakes I made. Just want some advice from this community. This is the first girl I ever slept with so I had extreme oneitis because I never got attention from girls in the past.

Basically I didn’t find TRP until after everything happened so I was extremely beta and BP with her. While she was dating her ex she cheated on him consistently with this one guy (massive red flag I ignored), then when that guy ghosted her we had already been hanging out but we started hanging out more. She talked a ton of shit about this guy to me while they were dating, saying stuff like ““I love him but I’m not in love with him” “I’m not attracted to him anymore” “he’s really mean sometimes” “I don’t want to sleep with him anymore”. I had hung out with her while he was there and she would spend the entire time talking to and joking around with me while he just stood there quietly. We hadn’t slept together but we were hanging out all the time and making out and whatnot while she was still with him. She broke up with him and we were hooking up and basically dating until she made out with another guy in front of me that she invited out while we were on a date. We hooked up the next morning but then I told her I needed space, during this time she hit him up. I kept going back and trying to be with her (I recognize that this was extremely stupid. I wish I had read TRP before).

There was like a 3 week stretch of her hanging out with and talking to both of us and after reading TRP I think she was 100% sleeping with him during this time but not with me so I was a beta idiot giving her attention for nothing. After I called her out on a lie we didn’t talk for 3 weeks, but most recently I tried to see if we could be FWB and I got a “I really value our friendship, I think we should work on that first because it’s been neglected. I don’t think we should be hooking up right now. Jumping into things is what got us into trouble in the past. We should just be friends and if we do anything down the road we should just commit.” (She just wants to keep me on the back burner as an orbiter?). I stupidly agreed to be friends but I see after reading posts here that all she wants is attention and validation from me, which I gave her an absurd amount of when we were seeing each other. I think after reading stuff here that I did everything right leading up to us hooking up but once we did I got way too attached way too fast and over invested, which lead her to jump to the next guy that day. She keeps asking me to hang out but I’ve been saying I’m busy (monk mode). I’ve been mostly ignoring her texts ever since (she texts me a lot, like she’ll send a text and then another one 20-30 mins later if I don’t answer). I don’t want to be friends with her but I have to work with her so I just act like I’m unbothered to keep work civil. I guess it confuses me that she said she left this guy for me and “wanted us” but was talking to other guys while seeing me before hooking up with one in front of me and then going back to her ex. Currently she claims she’s single, and she said she is talking to and hanging out with other guys, but is also “working things out” with him. I guess it just confuses me that she was so negative toward him and then went back to him.

She is very adamant toward being my friend but she doesn’t offer me anything, I should continue acting how I am right? I have absolutely no interest in being her friend or ever being anything more. All she did was disrespect me and I let her because I was too BP. Do I even have a reason to be annoyed by this or am I just being stupid?