One of the worst mistakes [with women I was attracted to] I repeated for too many years of my life, was hiding my sexuality.

Hiding my attraction and lust in hopes of being seen as “good” and “better”. Hiding my eyes and head from obvious observation of a gorgeous, womanly body to seem “in control” and “not like the others”. Hiding hands from touching (in an flirtatious sense), because I was saintly and would never literally touch a woman without permission! Hiding my words in conversation to not lead into sexual talk, because there’s noOoOoOo way I, the goody great nice guy I am, would want to discuss sex with a beautiful woman.

I hid so much. I thought HIDING from sexuality would give me MORE sexual encounters (cause...I’m, er, different!). It’s a nonexistent game of hide and go seek. You think the women are SEEKING the HIDERS? Men who suppress their sexuality? Lessen their activeness and openness? Depress themselves to supposedly “differentiate” themselves? Women are SEEKING the DOERS. The men that go-for. That express, EXCITE, and entice. The men that bring FEELING within them through ACTION. None of that is possible in hiding. They’re up, at ‘em, and letting them know, DO-ING. of course while focusing on self-improvement and life-building. Do not do this while unconfident, weak, lame (low SMV) and broke

This is who is fucking the girl who calls you “friend”. This is who is being texted everyday by her, this is who is having her damn near foaming at the pussy, this is who she is constantly thinking about. He may not be a hero either. He may (probably) cheats, ignores, sucks at a lot, is broke, lazy, whatever....BUT HE DIDNT FUCKING HIDE.

STOP HIDING. Show your goddamn SELF!!

  1. SHOW ATTRACTION let her know she’s fine. Look at her. ADMIRE her. Even if she sees you. DO SO PROUDLY. Obviously don’t be a creep about it. But projecting attraction and dominance through sight is a real fucking thing. They just don’t like when the creeps/uglies do it, so they shame all of it. Be proud of being a man and be happy that she is the woman she is through eyesight. Let the rest lay its course. **This leads to more eye contact scenarios and so more approaches since they feel comfortable now that they “know”

  2. ESTABLISH SHIT (verbal) Let her know she’s sexy. Tell her she’s cute. Compliment her body. Verbally note her scent. Reply to that sexy ass post she just put on her story. Do whatever it takes to establish yourself as a man of SEXUALITY rather than a man of CASUALITY (a friend, a “good guy I know”). Becoming a man of causality when you want to be one of sexuality is exactly what leads to the fucked up beta ass situations we talk about here.

  3. ESTABLISH SHIT (physically) Inform her through body language that you have intentions. Grab her hand graciously. Hold her arms from time to time. Put your hand on her waist at correct scenarios. Don’t be a fucking piece of Shit rapist. But play the game properly and she will be greatly informed and curious as to why you touch her (because you’re openly attracted and sexual) and where else you possibly could (curiosity stimulated by what you’ve been DOING and not hiding)

Stop HIDING !!! This applies to women you are attracted to. Please don’t start touching and openly presenting yourself as a sexual man to all women.

On a phone so I wish I could format this and make this better. But I know a lot of guys here needed to here this: STOP HIDING!