I've always had a problem with seeking validation from others and have been working towards fixing that ever since I found TRP, but I just remembered something that happened last night and I think I've just caught myself getting validation from a friend and not gaming a girl hard as I was after recieving it.

So the girl in question said she had a boyfriend at some point but I dismissed it and talked and flirt like I would anyone else. We played table tennis and got comfortable with each other, after that we joined our group of friend and at some point when she wasn't there the guys were talking about how she was hot but she had a boyfriend and whatnot, basically wanting to get with her. One friend in particular that's a real player flirted around with her but thought it wouldn't go anywhere.

After this, something came over me, probably the alcohol, we played pool together 2v2 and we paired up and I was using an ungodly amount of kino, hugging and touching in between. At this moment I saw my friend watching us and he was smiling in acknowledgement and it just seemed that he was withdrawing. The pool game finished and I didn't talk with her much after and was caught up talking with other people.

I feel like I got that validation from a friend who has a high smv and just gave up on the girl, now that I think about it, this has happened countless times.

How do I deal with this?