As far as frame relates to what some people would call "slut shaming," how can a guy's attitude chamge the dynamic. Obviously you don't want to encounter the type who would immediately accuse somebody of "slut shaming," if they don't even have the sense that if they aren't ashamed it isn't "shaming" or whatever. (if they are sluts then why wouldn't they be ashamed of that already?)

So rather than putting her on a pedastle or being the nice guy, how far is it from approaching her with a kind of "what's up dude" mindset?? Is that weird? I feel as though most women are not all that feminine in the way that they would pick up on a kind of more subtle flirting that I would say made me come off as a nice guy. Or maybe they just weren't into me, I don't know.

Anyway, still not 100% sure what the right question to ask is; or how to gauge if a woman is super easy and promiscuous or not as much, and if that should change the mindset/frame.