I have sort of been in this loop for a few years now... I first found pick up (6 or so years ago), got a one year girlfriend who was decent looking then she broke up with me due to my Oneitis, got another girlfriend who I am still seeing as a plate now after ending a 4 year relationship with her (thanks to red pill)...

My problem is that i am developing Oneitis for her again, and I am having a much stronger version of my approach anxiety due to the Oneitis... I don’t like the idea that I gotta let go of her completely cuz She’s 8/10 at least and me and her vibe really well... also she seems like she has potential to control her hypergamy (although that is just my bias and would be something I have to train her for) because she is introverted at core. But she isn’t the topic.

My exaggerated approach anxiety... my lack of motivation (or fluctuating motivation) and my feelings of inferiority are crippling me from approaching and gaming a 2nd plate. And this right here is the problem and I need baby steps of how to fix it because I really can’t go on in the single> Oneitis> single> Oneitis loop anymore.