I’ll give my example:

I’m a teenage girl, 16 years old. I remember having my first ever when I was 10 on a boy in my class because he was “good at computers”. Until I was maybe about 14 I always had crushes on people for silly reasons such as that, or “he likes the same books as me”... just silly facts.

When I was 15, I got my first actual crush on a guy.. but it was for so many reasons. He was good looking, funny, talented, we had similar tastes in music... I felt a “different” sort of attraction towards him. “Obsessive” is the wrong word.. but do you get what I mean? Thinking he’s just perfect in every way, imagining how lovely it would be in the future if we were to get married... that kind of thing. Damn it, even if we don’t talk as much as we used to anymore, I’ll admit that I still have a crush on him.

But I’ve never ever had sexual thoughts about him... to me it just seems like it would be disrespectful towards him. I can’t bring myself to think anything of that nature.. about anyone I know in real life.

However, like many teenagers, I can’t help but have crazy hormones. It’s something that girls don’t often talk about, but yes we do have sexual thoughts, we feel horny and act upon those feelings through self gratification. But celebrities or even fictional characters (I read a lot of books, ok? I can’t help but to have developed some sort of crush on imaginary guys) are people that I can fantasise about. Or even porn (though for some reason it’s hard to find porn that’s not just male-targeted).

Anyway, do these sort of feelings change once you’ve reached adulthood, (like mid 20s)? How does it feel to be attracted to someone? Do sexual feelings change?

Or are my feelings unusual?

Any fellow teenagers here... do you have a crush, and if so, what sort of feelings do you really feel towards them?

Discuss.