18 year old male with lack of discipline

hardmodefire · 2020-09-20T16:29:34+00:00

I think you may have tried to change many things in your life and burned out. I’ve been there, went through the same struggles when I was 18 (10 years ago). My suggestions:

1) Find out what you really like, what really makes you happy, and dedicate yourself to that one thing completely, be it dancing, guitar, whatever. Don’t try to be a Renaissance man.

2) I had the same issue in college where I almost failed several classes one semester. I was unmotivated and wanted to switch majors. I had a talk with my father around that time that changed my perspective on motivation for the rest of my life. It boils down to: you know what you have to do, so just do it. I’ve since stopped thinking about whether I want to or don’t want to do x. If I need to do something to reach my goals, I just do it. Becoming a man for me boils down to 1 thing: match your thoughts/words to your actions, keep your word like it’s sacred, and that includes keeping your word to yourself. Set yourself up for success by doing what you already know you need to do to achieve it, forget about motivation.

3) There will be days where you’re too tired to do this shit, accept it and plan for it. I work like a dog Monday to Friday, but as soon as the weekend starts, I don’t think about work anymore. That includes my job, reading for educational purposes, studying for certifications, studying for my part time masters, working out, etc. I will work 16+ hours Monday through Friday, but weekends are for reading for leisure, playing football with my friends, going out, visiting my girlfriend, watching a movie, etc. (This was pre pandemic but you get the point). Set a time for work and work hard, set a time for play and play hard.

4) You don’t need to meditate, shower with only cold water, stop masturbating forever, read ancient ass books to be a man. You don’t need this shit to be a disciplined man. Understand what you want to become in life and work hard for it, that’s all it takes. It is not relevant what temperature the water is or how long you can keep your mind blank, once you identify who you want to become and start taking steps towards this the discipline will come from your own desire to achieve it. Of course if masturbation is a problem for you you’ll need to do something about it, but once every two days or so never killed anyone. Forget about all this shit about becoming an ideal man for some random guy on the internet who says you shouldn’t masturbate and be stoic as fuck to be a man. Find out who you want to be and commit to that, don’t let someone else tell you how you should go through life, you’re a man who can make his own path. If this helps you, keep on with it, but don’t do it just because someone else thinks you should.

Feel free to reach out to me if you want.

wawakaka · 2020-09-21T01:40:57+00:00

what may be blocking you is fear and that's why you are procrastinating. it may be a form of self sabotage. all you have to do is get started to get the ball rolling. but the more you put it off the more inertia you have. BE LIKE BATMAN...he never gives up.

also watch your diet. some foods will make you lethargic and unmotivated because they will raise serotonin and prolactin and lower dopamine. Dopamine is what you need. it increases motivation and energy.

tripmepls · 2020-09-22T14:56:16+00:00

You need to read the Red Pill Handbook

Title	18 year old male with lack of discipline
Author	EirikurPerunov
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Date	September 20, 2020 3:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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