Recently I've got hard denied by the biggest oneitis of my life.

I went hardcore bluepill for this girl. Bought her gifts, took care of her when nobody wanted to, helped her with work, got hurt many times by her, only to be ultimately denied any affection. And that is fine. That is life. It must go on.

But here's the catch. Improving my frame? Sure, but it will always come down to "hey I am working on myself but is it because I want to improve myself, or is it because of that one denial?"

It feels like, this event is life-changing in every sense of the word. It's like a chapter, forever written into my very being. It feels like anything I do next will stem from this thing.

I want to improve myself and work on myself because of me, but my deep consciousness will always remind me that it is not because of me, but because of a girl that played me. It's like ultimately, this girl will always be the one responsible for any success I will achieve. And I absolutely despise this idea.

How do I escape this mindset?