Hi all,

So I’m gonna guess my solution is gonna be me making myself unavailable/giving her space, push-pulling, reminding her why I’m so great, or getting other plates. Let me know what you think. TL;DR at the bottom because I type a lot.

So I [24] took up tango back in January. Through one of my classes I met a killer German chick [32]. Super cool, well traveled, into kinky sex.

We started off as friends and tango partners. Of course I liked her but I had gotten out of an LTR when I met her so I was enjoying some time off of women before diving back in.

She “friend zoned” me initially she says. She could tell I liked her, though I had no plans to act on that because I was chilling.

Then one day out of the blue, she finally takes me up on a past offer where I told her I would take her on a shroom trip if she wanted.

So we do the trip, I take her to the park and we have “the best day of her life”. Later that night we were walking home and she said “she fell in love with me a little bit”.

As time went on we hung out more and she had never ever texted me so much. One night we were cuddling and drinking wine and she said she didn’t want to break my heart. (She’s moving in a year and she also wants to be in an open relationship— or at least seeing each other, but not exclusively. She likes sex, goes to sex parties, and sees a few people). I said she’s not gonna break my heart and I don’t know where this is coming from.

(She had never really been cuddled before btw, she’s been doing so much sex stuff she missed doing that.)

At first she seemed so fascinated and so into me during this period. We quickly transitioned to seeing each other 2 or three times a week. She joked that I should keep a wardrobe at her place so I could come over more often.

We haven’t fucked but we have done oral. She made the first move and sucked me off. Complemented my dick and said she loved it (i was the first person she ever swallowed and she’s swallowed every time ;) ). I usually give her about 4 orgasms when I play with her or eat her out. She said that’s not normal and it’s amazing lol we’re working up to sex, we’re not quite there yet (in my own opinion, I’m not in a rush and we’re also good friends so I’m going at a slower pace than usual).

She made us a list of things to do scheduled as far as a year in advance. Including things like traveling out of the country together and meeting her parents. On top of everything she’s been giving me gifts nonstop. Stuff from her trip to South Africa, an e-reader, a pocket pussy lol she’s spoiling me to death.

Anyway, it’s been really great even though she wants to see other people and do this wild sex stuff I know for a fact that she hasn’t had the time to do any of that. I haven’t had the time to maintain or set up other plates either.

I’m getting the feeling she’s getting bored or at least disenchanted (this could just all be in my head and she’s just tired from her busy life right now). I definitely notice a difference in texting and a slight difference in cuddling.

So I think the problem is I got it into my head that this is a “done deal/prizing her” and I’m spending too much time with her. Or maybe there is no problem and things have just calmed down and I need to change my game approach.

I listed the ways I think I could fix it at the top, but I also think another shroom trip with me would save the day here or re-anchor her in those crazy positive emotions, we’ve got one scheduled for the end of the month so we’ll see. In the meantime I’m wondering what else I should do.

I’m crazy busy so I haven’t made the time to spin other plates of mine and they’ve fallen off. Should I start those up again and give her space? How would you all approach a situation like this?

How can I reignite her obsession with me? I do like her, and I am prizing her, but she’s the plate I want right now. I can find others, but I would rather spend my time with her, especially since she leaves in a year.

TL;DR I’ve known a girl/my tango partner for a few months now. She became enamored with me and our relationship changed to cuddling, oral sex, and spending a lot of time together. I feel her getting tired of me or drifting away, probably due to me prizing her and spending so much time with her. How can I reignite this plate? If the answer is get other plates, how can I make the time to do that when I’m already so busy? I feel like I don’t have the time.

Bonus question: how do you start up an old plate that drifted apart? If I have to get more plates, it would probably be easier to start up an old one right?

Thanks for the help in advance. I am a dumb dumb when I prize someone and I need a smack back into reality