I'm 22 so seeking advice from more experienced guys.

So I don't have first-time performance anxiety, I've had first-time sex enough times and care more about my pleasure than hers. What I feel like is that consistency is a burden with well-connected plates.

What I mean by "well-connected" is that if a girl has any mutual friends (or her own big social circle with a lot of attractive women), I feel like I want to "end on a high note".

Like, if I've fucked a girl well 5 or 6 times over a few weeks, I might not feel totally bored of her, but I feel that she'll get bored of me. Like, if I mysteriously fade-away now her friends might be like "what happened to OP?" or I might just keep her interest to resume later. But if I get lazy, start feeling routine, or fuck up somehow then when we finish she's gonna remember me as bad-in-bed and potentially tell others that.

For the record, I've never actually been dropped by a plate before (because basically I'm dropping them pre-emptively). At this point in my life I think quantity-over-quality is OK, but I wonder when I'll grow the comfort to keep a plate around for consecutive months or even years.

You guys ever experience this? How did you get over it? I understand the basic theory of "if she feels like she's fighting for your interest she'll chase you even if the sex isn't perfect", but I'd like to hear how you've experienced that in-practice.

Thanks for your perspectives.