You're living with her and you realise you haven't felt free or happy in weeks or months. Every idea, opinion and action of yours becomes the subject of her scrutiny and she'll contradict, question or criticise every single one of them. You long ago lost the will to defend yourself or get into a discussion about it, because she doesn't listen to logic anyway, and will only move the goalposts and shift the conversation elsewhere as soon as she feels you're onto her.

You're sapped of energy so you don't really go to the gym any more and you can't be bothered cooking properly. Consequently your appearance, health and confidence levels get into a vicious downward spiral. Meanwhile she relishes in the control she's managed to exert over you. Once upon time she looked at you as an enigma, a new and powerful man for her to get with. You excited her and maybe even scared her a little. Now that her campaign has succeeded you're a harmless, hopeless puppy. She can make you wag your tail and pant excitedly if she suggests you might be getting some later tonight, and she can make you sulk in the corner all alone, feeling like you've done something wrong. She knows all your buttons and she doesn't mind pressing them.

All of this change you've gone through has made any attraction she once had for you completely disappear. You can't quite remember the ways you used to shoot her down, win her over, or call out her crap. You know you used to be able to turn her pouting into giggling, but it's been such a long time you've just forgotten how you did it. On top of that, you just daren't challenge her any more. You know she's got the power now and it's just one of the reasons you're in the dump you're not in.

You don't want to risk her breaking up with you. You don't really see your friends much any more so without her, you'd be left alone. Weakness, depression, anxiety, alcoholism and failure are all present or imminent. You are nothing like the person you know you have the potential to be, and it's all happened because at some point being in your comfort zone became the most important thing in your life. You were too comfy, too many times, and now you're facing the consequences.