How to deal with men and the bro hierarchy [Developing theory]

TRPCops · 2019-12-05T21:27:28+00:00

Rule 1

Isbjornsolo · 2019-12-05T16:29:37+00:00

Men are pragamatic, you need to bring something to the group dynamic to be accepted. There is a heirarchy and you may not sit at the top of it, thats perfectly fine if you've got solid guys around you.

Provide some form of value. Are you funny, smart, a good story teller? Do you have cool hobbies/project which people may find interesting?

My group of mates are involved in the same sport. Thats the only overlap of the Venn diagram. Some are doctors, musicians, businessmen. We support & help each other where we can and have a laugh with each other.

Don't get caught up in being the "Alpha" all the time. Make sure you're in good shape, you are lifting, right? Are fun/interesting to be around & are willing to organise some cool stuff from time to time.

Male friendships aren't that complicated.

Massap24 · 2019-12-05T17:08:49+00:00

Nothing complicated about it, find a solid group of males that are as driven as you. I don’t worry about being alpha around my friends, we just have a good time and help each other out. I definitely have less motivated beta friends too, I look out for them the same, but I don’t let them drag me down or distract me. I don’t off friends because they’re beta and I also don’t try to out “alpha” them, look down on them or want them to idolize me.

This doesn’t mean a hierarchy doesn’t exist among male social groups. The point is you shouldn’t be worried about where you fall in this hierarchy.

Don_Draper27 · 2019-12-05T17:02:59+00:00

Men and women are different in most ways so the same principals with dealing with either gender cant be used.

This is not true. Passing shit tests is the same except it's better to pressure flip or ignore than to AA or DA with men but they're still shit tests.

It's best to focus your attention on improving your SMV and building your frame.

AMOG'ing displays low value IMO so don't do that.

Domebeers · 2019-12-05T17:27:55+00:00

" but rarely does a good job with men "

uhh this is not true, you don't get it yet.

2019-12-05T15:36:04+00:00

Honestly, fuck the bro hierarchy. Just get yourself a solid group of friends with similar values and be done with it.

Why do you want the respect and admiration of betas? Here's the thing: betas don't work like that, or they'd learn not to be betas. In my experience, they've always just ended up jealous of me and talk shit. They can't fathom how I do some of the things I do, or how the world works that way for me. So I become the enemy, "the asshole."

You want alpha friends. You get alpha friends by meeting them, then seeming cool and like you've got shit in common.

Title	How to deal with men and the bro hierarchy [Developing theory]
Author	sergioisawesome_
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	December 5, 2019 3:24 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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