I DON'T GET IT. "You're not a high value man". What is a HIGH VALUE man? Who defines this value? Do you on MRP? Does she? or Do I?

If it is use on MRP I'll never attain it, the goal posts seem to move. Lift, STFU, but don't be covert, have frame and boundaries, but don't take things too serious, make money but women don't give a shit about your bank account, be fun, funny, fit, well traveled, successful, unlimited supplies of mental ecstasy

If it is her. I'll never attain it. I like your abs but... You make good money but.... Date nights are fun but.... Your handy and fix things but.... you dress nice but... you take me places but...

So it must be me. I must define what is high value. so then WHAT IF?

WHAT IF, I don't give a shit anymore about the messes she makes and doesn't clean up? Leave it lay, walk around it, whatever.

WHAT IF, I don't give a shit anymore about her physical appearance, stop complimenting her, stop encouraging, just leave her to her own uninspiring self. However she looks, she looks.

WHAT IF, I stop offering comfort.

WHAT IF, I stop bringing her along on date nights, trips, etc. WHAT IF I just go on my own and do it how I want.

WHAT IF, we go back to separate finances? I take care of my bills, my groceries, my financial goals.

WHAT IF, I don't give a shit about her feelings, her motives, agenda, whatever. I cannot in fact fix her feelings or be responsible for her lack of initiative, planning, foresight, ambition, goals, education, intellect, etc.

WHAT IF, every-time something doesn't serve me how I want it, I speak up and let it be known. EVERYTHING

WHAT IF, I stop trying to initiate deep conversation and leave her alone to her phone scrolling, tv watching, etc

WHAT IF, I just stop caring

WHAT IF, I stop this dancing monkey of being all these things and just live my life for myself. WHAT IF I focus only on what I need and want and when.

The problem for me all along is trying to save this woman, help this woman, comfort this woman, improve this woman. There is nothing I can do for her. Nothing. I CANNOT DO ANYTHING FOR HER.

In fact I CAN'T DO ANYTHING FOR ANYONE but myself. Maybe this is finally the fucking piece I've been missing. All the attitudes, actions, complaints, requests, expectations of the outside world are just that. Of the outside and for the outside. I have no control for them or over them.

So I think it's time to sit back and leave her to her own devices, the 1000 ft rope doesn't exist because it can't exist. It's still another way to try to influence, control, help that which can't be. They/She has to stop drowning in the first place, or even realize they are drowning. In her mind she might be Michael Phelps.