I saw a post here that claimed we're all pieces of shit. I guess that kind of rubbed me the wrong way. Anyway, I just typed out some thoughts about TRP. While I'm sure it's all been said before, maybe these ideas are new to someone and offer some perspective.

Here's my take

We're not pieces of shit. We avoid things that serve as a detriment to us and we strive to self improve. This is no different than any other living organism anywhere (that we know of). Lions won't attack a bigger animal alone out of fear of dying, they'll gang up on it because it increases the chances of them taking it down. To the lion, it's doing what it needs to survive. Any living organism will do what it needs to survive.

We are no different. Millions of years of natural selection has made it so certain traits manifest in each gender to make each gender more appealing to the other. Women will be more attracted to men who are tall with wide shoulders and muscular bodies, as men with this physique will likely be more dominant, be more effective hunters, and be able to adequately defend the woman and their children from potential threats. While physical traits are often chosen over personality, natural selection has also shaped the types of personalities that are most successful in the sexual marketplace. Men who are dominant enough to be more successful than their peers, but are also caring and paternal providers would have yielded a good amount of success in the 190,000 years of modern humans being hunter gatherers. If a man is too short or too weak or too fat, women will have less interest in being fucked by them. This is because of the sheer fact that a woman can only fulfill her reproductive function once every 9 months whereas men can fulfill theirs as fast as they can orgasm. A woman must be more discerning when it comes to the sexual marketplace as she can only pump out a baby every 9 months. If she sleeps with a man who is perceived as having poorer genetics or a poor lifestyle(see; too fat, too weak, too short, bad facial aesthetics) then she is essentially wasting her limited fertility. This is the opposite of a man's reproductive system. A man can fertilize as many women as he wants, as fast as he wants. A man will be more willing to settle for a woman with poor genes as his reproductive system is telling him that he will be able to not only fertilize her, but possibly a woman with better genes at no cost to him.

This is observable anecdotally, if you go to any hookup site and look at the things women are looking for in men, the traits they desire are nearly universal. They want tall, strong and dominant men who are willing to settle down with them and fit into a provider role. There is nothing wrong with this, women are simply seeking mates that will be able to provide for and protect not only them but their prospective children. The opposite is true as well. Men are more inclined to seek out as many mates as possible so that they are able to spread the seed far and wide. Men don't HAVE to be as discerning as women, as their reproductive system neither has an expiration date nor does it have an absurdly long refractory rate (9 months vs 30 minutes).

To say that we are shitty for doing what millions of years of natural selection has determined is the best course of action for us to take is tantamount to saying beavers are shitty for building dams. Beavers who don't cooperate with other beavers, or refuse to take part in the system die, and won't be able to pass their rebellious genes on. Beavers who's behavior makes them conducive to dam building and cooperation makes it more likely that they will not only garner the support of other beavers and not be killed by predators, but will increase their odds of reproducing with a beaver of the opposite sex. Over time, beavers who don't play the dam building game will become less and less until every beaver builds dams. Obviously I'm no expert on beaver sexual strategy, but I'm sure you can see the point I'm trying to make.

Now, let's talk about something else. Men are more inclined to want to fit into a provider role because over time, that sexual strategy is a surefire way to find a mate. Our genes don't care if we get fucked over by divorce courts, lawyer fees, sexually transmitted diseases, depression, financial ruin or anything else. To our genes, all that matters is that we pass them on. If we pass our genes on, we are fulfilling our reproductive role. We are motivated by sex, we are motivated by the idea of passing our genes on, we are motivated by the idea of being successful and attractive; in short, we are motivated by the idea that we can manifest the most successful reproductive traits.

While natural selection has made us to want to be dominant and want to be a provider, natural selection has also granted us higher cognition. 10,000 years of agriculture and relative safety has done little to change what habits 190,000 years of hunting and gathering have ingrained in us. We are no longer hunter gatherers. If we exhibit traits that are undesirable, it's not the end of our lineage. If you are 400 pounds, short, weak, and dumb, chances are that you will be supported by the welfare state and be able to find women at the bottom of the barrel through online hookup sites. I'm only speaking for places that live in excess, like Europe and North America, as well as many other parts of the world. In the past, if you exhibited traits that were undesirable, that was it. No woman in your tribe would put out and if you couldn't hunt, you'd starve. Your lineage would end and a man with more desirable genes would reproduce in your place. This is simply what natural selection is.

We aren't pieces of shit, we are simply doing what every other living organism does. TRP and similar ideologies simply promote the idea that we don't have to be governed by our genes. Our genes want us to reproduce, and to do that we must be beta providers and strive to improve ourselves, not for us, but for women, all in the name of reproduction. We say fuck that and improve ourselves for our own happiness. We don't see a point in bending over backwards for a woman. Don't take any shit, if a woman disrespects you or makes you feel negatively, you don't have to play along. Tell her she needs to shape the fuck up or she can find someone else to be with. There are billions of women. If you are desirable, you can find a new partner. If you're not desirable, you can change that. Start lifting, dress nice, strive to make more money.

As someone who is a human first and is TRP second, I will avoid situations that can bring harm to me. If a woman demands I work for her and her future children, I don't see a way to pass my genes on, I see an exploiter. She's not evil, or wrong for doing what will likely yield her the most success, she's just doing something that I want no part of. The whole point of TRP, at least to me, is to show us that our genes can sometimes urge us to do dangerous shit. It's dangerous to end up depressed, in financial ruin, cucked and complacent. Even if my genes are urging me to do whatever it takes to reproduce, I realize that for me as an individual, that can be pretty dangerous.

Improve yourself, not for women but for yourself. Lift, earn money, be comfortable, happy and confident.

tl;dr men don't suck, and neither do women.