I was a nice naive girl without FDS when I met my ex. He two timed me with his ex of 5 years. (She knew of me but of course he told her I was just a friend). Cheating was the perfect excuse for me to FINALLY leave bc he blamed/manipulated me for everything (as LVM do). Found out he had been sending her emails of wanting to marry her while with me and sleeping with her. She went off on me for being a home wrecker and I did no contact for a couple years and changed my number bc her friends and him blew up my phone. I changed jobs and transferred to uni bc he could not respect no contact. Full ghost mode. He lurked behind fake profiles but I have never post anyway, left crap on my car you ladies know the deal.

2 Years past, last week he reaches out again only this time I speak up. I tell him to please leave me alone and that I find him so creepy (he harassed me a lot after the break up asking for closure from his cheating). and he blocks me immediately (ok seems fishy) . I didn't care to ask his intentions for reaching out bc regardless its WRONG and irrelevant to my growth.

I am disgusted to find out that she is still with him and he has not changed at 26. Not out of jealousy but bc she truly was a beautiful, seemingly fun, forgiving person who excused his mistakes of cheating, spending her money on me (I did not know) and making a fool out of her to their friends and family. Back then she did bash me but I know it came from a place of pain. She explained he treated me the way she always asked (if he wanted to he would and i recognize that he love bombed me with trips and gifts) and that she was with him when he had nothing. (bob the builder)

The embarrassment never stops with LVM and forgiving is only a temporary fix. It makes me so upset how as women we forgive so much damage for them to just do it again. He probably hit me up out of boredom or a hookup ew but it doesn't matter. . I think its common sense for any guy whose been in a serious relationship to never contact their ex. any gf wouldn't be pleased their bf is reaching out to an ex.

For the record NO, I will not tell her his actions. She spoke to me horribly last time and took him back after cheating this time would be no different. I am upset that he will get away with disrespecting her but its none of my business. Just a reminder that LVM are trash and incapable of growth and self reflection.

TAKEAWAYS

  • No contact works wonders. (the gifts, letters, one sided conversation emails he sent me while i never responded proves it)
  • No reaction and indifference drives LVM narcissists insane
  • LVM do not change not even for the "Love of their Life"
  • LVM degrade/disrespect the very woman that forgave them while simultaneously romanticizing/pining after the SAME woman that nearly destroyed their relationship to begin with.
  • LVM will disrespect the barbara the builder. They feel the need to prove their worth to other women.
  • LVM know some women fear walking away after years of investing time, no matter how loud the disrespect and will use it to their advantage.
  • men just really like the chase lmaooo

LVM sand getting cheated on sucks but I am a wiser person from it. I am doing better now, gained healthy weight, emotionally intelligence, my degree and fixed my crooked nose. Bye dusty manchild