Choosing party/unstable life very consciously; it feels really good giving in to attractive/emotionally unavailable men.

Somewhere in this if her forebrain sounds an alarm, convince that she is a victim of some childhood abuse or the typical 'an abusive ex'. It's either she plays the victim so thoroughly with tearworks or they guilt trip them for denying the victim status so the psychologists/therapists out there doesn't call out on their bullshit and panders to them.

Voila. Now we have her convincing herself and the victim. A free pass to reckless dependency on pill, alcohol, substance and sex. There's not a moment of introspection; it's always someone/something else so she does this/that.

You don't get to see this side of a woman unless she drops down her veil. This is also when Chad gives them the boot and she suffers this dichotomy of

  1. Chad slept with me, so I am worth something, me high status blah blah.
  2. A low self worth - why do i date assholes, why don't i attract the good men*.

*This good men, gentlemen - is just a made up crap that is a projection of what she lacks. It's unfortunate that many a men - men raised without a proper father figure in their lives fall for this. They start to believe that being nice - a vague, a(woman's) imaginary persona - is what they seek and in this process, start regretting their masculinity. This amplified over large sections is what led to the current downfall from the stable situations civilizations provided us.

TRP exploits this best- by playing it mysteriously and shorting their made-up self worth, to cause them to crumble and fall in the places. Chad does it effortlessly since she's already attracted to him without speaking a word and his abdundance mentality with women.

I don't see a way how they can get back to a building block of a stable family life. Too much water has flown under the bridge and to acknowledge that they were in the wrong would mean a lot of work for the therapist, so they are helpless here but to keep inflating the victim bubble.

Pity them and you would end up pitiable.

Where and how this is going to end, I wouldn't know. It's like the economy that's kept afloat through printing. Nothing makes sense when you see the big picture and you are told to be content as long as your returns are good (economy, woman).

Your views awaited in the comments.