Hey Everyone,

So I'm new to TRP. I stumbled upon the subreddit while I was looking for answers to my mother's recent troubling behavior. A little background:

{I started giving background, but then it turned in to an epic, unrelated life story, lol.} So here's the TL;dR. Rich, powerful mother, rich "ChadThundercock" father. Father passed away 2 years ago during a hunting accident. Older brother died from carbon monoxide poisoning (might have been an accident, suicide, we don't know) last year. Sister is away in Spain for college. I've just come of age and recently married. My grandfather (mom's father) died from heart failure 2 months ago while I was shadowing him for our family business. So it's just 'Mom and I'.

While it's difficult to put a "tl;dr" on all that's happened to me in the past 2 years, I feel I have to in order to get some questions I need answered. Because the whole story is just too long.

So, I'm recently married to a beautiful girl/woman, who like my mother, comes from a wealthy and influential family. We actually didn't date for very long, maybe only 6 months. Anyways, I'm head over heels for her and she is for me too. I actually lost my virginity our wedding night. (I know what some might say. Before anyone says "that's your problem", taste more at the buffet, etc... I'm deeply committed to my faith and so is my wife). Ever since our actual marriage my mother has become... vindictive, for lack of a better word. While we were dating and even engaged my mother seemed happy for us and the least bit jealous or anything. So it's only been recently that stuff has started to hit the fan.

The first bit was when she half-accused her brother (my uncle) of killing her son (my brother). He was with him when he died, but clearly had no part in it. My uncle actually moved away because things were getting so hectic. Took his inheritance from my grandfather and split. So then she set her sights on my wife and I for whatever reason and began to meddle in our lives. She would show up and do laundry or just sit on the couch and watch Game of Thrones or something ridiculous. Acting motherly, but in a really odd way. It was ok for the first few times she came over, but now it's like every other day and it's starting to cause problems between my wife and I.

Anyways, my wife's brother is what you would call, a "closet homosexual" I guess. He's kind of a black sheep and we've tried to get him help, but nonetheless he's her brother and she loves him very much. Well recently he's become addicted to 'mollies' (ecstacy? I think). Anyways, my mother found out about this and overheard a phone call between my wife and her brother (he was in some kind of distress or something). So my mother goes and calls the cops and relays the information about where she overheard he was at. Yada, yada, yada, my brother in-law gets arrested with 200 tablets of this molly, cocaine, and marijuanna on him and he's facing an eternity in jail.

My mother is the only one with enough money that I know of to post his bail (and in my opinion, morally should since she's the one who called the cops). But she says 'no'. That, "He sinned, and must pay for his crimes." She says the law is out of her hands. I'm soooo heated at this point. I have no idea what to do. My wife's mad at me because my mother put HER brother in jail and now it's "MY fault" that we can't get him out.

So I just feel like I'm being hit from all sides. Some from my wife, but mostly my mother. She's almost happy about all that's happening right now. Idk, I'm kinda lost. My wife's family basically disowned her brother because of his "other activities" so I feel like this is all on my shoulders to get him out and get him legal defense since it was my mom who put him in jail. Idk. Any advice?

Thanks, Tomm

EDIT: Sorry, I dont know how to put the "Ask TRP" flair on my post. It's not available for selection in my browser.