Hi,

Please no judgment or boring "don't shit where you eat" type of answers.

My boss is ultra feminine and extremely attractive. She knows it.. I don't know her exact sexual preferences, but she's married to a man. I highly suspect their marriage is open. She shares an office with 2 others and has a rainbow flag she glued to the wall (she didn't put it on her desk!!!); but it might not say anything because management gave out these flags (although not many people hanged them).
She's a naturally flirty type and smiles and winks at almost everybody... I've also noticed she sometimes lightly touches people's arm or knee when talking to them.

About a year and a half ago she used to heavily flirt with me, I don't know if I was the only one she did this stuff to but it must have taken guts because I could have easily gone to HR. She did things like (this isn't even all of it):

  • fix my shirt collar
  • pick lint off my shirt where my breasts are
  • she once pulled my t-shirt down (for no apparent reason), almost touching my crotch and lingered there for a sec
  • at a one on one meeting she told me my bra looked "amazing" when it wasn't even visible
  • almost put a poker chip down my shirt. She was gonna do it but stopped herself. I asked her "were you gonna put it down my shirt?", she was embarrassed and replied "yeah, as a joke"
  • she once exclaimed when I entered her office something like "how pretty you are!"
  • she told me she would have preferred "swinging" over something she had to do that night
  • some people at my office were (god knows why) talking about sexual harassment and she completely out of the blue said something to the effect of "women can sexually harass other women too", and proceeded to look at me and smile (I was in no way part of the conversation and was at a different part of the room)

I didn't and still don't know why she was doing it (I know people flirt for lots of reasons -- for fun, for validation, etc.)

She has recently started acting this way again. Yesterday at a one on one meeting she told me, out of context, that her husband said "something really sweet" the day before:(her words) "It's special that we still (pause)," I asked her "what?" and she proceeded to say "love each other and (pause) are attracted to each other". Which I suppose she meant to say their sex is good??? During the same meeting she said jokingly that I was hot.

My question/problem is I'm really attracted to her and have no idea what she's after. As far as she knows, I'm straight (I'm really bi curious). I don't want to pursue anything romantic but I'd be over the moon if we spent a night together... How do I make that happen? She's never texted me after work or asked to go out for a drink!

Thank you so much in advance!

Tl;dr I'm attracted to my boss who I suspect is also attracted to me (judge for yourself). I have no idea how to initiate anything if she is interested in me.