Intro

One of the quintessential mistakes TRP newbies make is assuming the rules don't apply to them (or their unicorn).

Go to asktrp on any given day and you'll witness a thread of good advice being ignored in favor of "Yes, but...there is this one girl" or "I ultimately decided to get into a pen pal texting marathon with this girl, and now she's being flaky. Why???"

While part of this phenomenon is natural male arrogance, another piece of ignoring the rules comes from the nagging feeling (or worse, first-person observation) that guys successful with women break these rules regularly.

This post is practical advice into why certain red rules exist, and who gets to break them. We'll use just two "rules" for starters.


Don't try to cultivate female friendship(s). They are not your friends.

This one bewilders noobs in a big way, and is also ragebait for bluepillers. That double whammy makes it extra difficult to handle as a rule.

Why is this a rule? - because in your early stages, you can't handle the female attention properly with any girl. There are 2 ways to gigantically fuck female friendship up:

  1. Have said female friend religiously reinforce your beta behaviors
  2. Fail to manage the sexual tension and blow up the friendship

Both 1 and 2 will happen to unplugged men, usually #1. Simping for your "friends" or catching oneitis for them is no bueno. TRP tells you not to seek female friendship because you aren't ready.

In addition, a man really can't derive benefit from this setup unless he is subtly or unsubtly fuckable in said friends' eyes. That's because...

Who gets to break this rule? - when you're prepared and red aware, female friends (especially hot ones) can confer two significant benefits:

  1. Social proof and pseudo-preselection
  2. Funnel of available 2nd and 3rd level friends

Number one occurs when you walk into a venue with two hot girls, both of which are clearly having a great time in your presence. That's social proof - the other girls will be very curious why those two are with you. Ancillary benefit is preselection - I call it pseudo because you aren't getting the "fuck me eyes" from your friends, but it works roughly the same.

Number two occurs as a result of being fuckable to said friends but not fucking them. That communicates abundance, among other things. This leads to handoffs - her girlfriend just got dumped? Becky visiting from out of town? You get an intro (with assurance you're "just so much fun to hang out with"). This is almost criminally easy access.

But most of you reading this are far away from that funnel - SO DON'T DELUDE YOURSELF INTO MAKING THIS YOUR STRATEGY. That's why it's a rule. Side note: once you fuck the friend she stops being a friend. Good way to destroy all those nice benefits you had.


Text only for logistics.

Fortunately, this is a much less complicated topic than female friendship.

Why is this a rule? - because the average dummy will go AOL Instant Messenger on a stranger and destroy the whole attraction before the first date.

Texting can maintain or decrease attraction, but never increase it. The reason for this is because non-verbal forms of communication are where the majority of attraction is created, where and how escalation occurs, and where genuine arousal is possible. Without facial expression and touch, words are pretty hollow.

The rule is a shortcut to not fucking up - which is much more important than doing the right things. It is an anti-heuristic, meaning the rule prevents the newb from trial-and-erroring repeatedly by taking a proscriptive (meaning "don't do this") approach.

Why is this rule breakable? - when you internalize the idea that attraction is never increased by text, you can find many ways to maintain it and enjoy the convenience of this form of communication.

Most rookies use social media and texting as a buffer to avoid the fear of gaming in-person. This is a fast track to entering the "coward" box in her mind.

However, the man who understands the utility of text can tease, push/pull, and work multiple prospects with a modicum of effort.


Conclusions

  • TRP "rules" can be broken, but only after fully internalizing why it was a rule in the first place
  • Decide whether or not she's a friend upfront - the benefits cease once you break the sexual tension, but there are real benefits
  • Texting is useful when you understand attraction will never be increased with it