How to forget her completely?

ThaHentaiConnoisseur · 2020-02-15T14:21:52+00:00

I understand completely man. You're not a beta, you want a traditional relationship, that isn't simping. Simping is throwing your money and life away for a woman who doesn't give you the time of day.

The issue for you is that what we're looking for doesn't exist anymore. Trust me, I'd love to find a woman to marry and have kids. The problem is women can't settle down nowadays. They get the butterflies and the feels and the "woke" culture supports the "strong independent woman". She will realize her mistake in her mid 30's when she loses her sexual desirability and her value in the relationship market place plummets.

The woman you (and many of us) are looking for just doesn't exist anymore. The unicorn. It sucks but you've just gotta accept that there are two options:

Unicorns exist, but are so rare it isnt worth searching because of the inherent risk in dating women (pregnant, false claims, cohabitation/common law marriage laws)
Unicorns don't exist.

Either way, it just isn't worth it friend.

rddysux · 2020-02-15T14:41:38+00:00

She never loved you. And she is NOT WORTH YOUR TIME.

kgopza · 2020-02-15T13:51:33+00:00

Throw away anything that reminds you of her. Delete her from all social media and just pretend she doesn’t exist. Treat yourself to good things and do stuff that you like. Picking up sports and hobbies is a good one. Personally I’m a fan of martial arts because it really helps you blow off some steam and it’ll raise your confidence too. Good luck and I’m happy you’ve seen the light.

Chatter_ · 2020-02-15T13:50:38+00:00

Time, get under something new, or have done thing to occupy your idle time. Nothing really besides that you can do

patschre · 2020-02-15T21:34:05+00:00

Bro, you had a serious 4 year relationship that ended with a massive betrayal, and it has only been four months. Anyone in that position is going to be feeling the way you are. It is completely normal.

You will get over it, but it will take time. In the present, you probably will cry and obsess over her a little bit (or a lot). It’s normal and okay.

Just put your best foot forward and try to improve yourself and meet other people. Eventually, time heals everything. Embrace how shitty everything is and use it to transform yourself into a stronger person.

Velsoxof_25 · 2020-02-15T13:39:33+00:00

Look into stoicism

golanginator · 2020-02-15T18:00:47+00:00

Forget who?

chuckutim · 2020-02-15T22:39:12+00:00

Hey man it takes a lot to admit this and I admire your candor. What you are fighting right now is what pretty much everyone in this sub has dealt with at one time or another. There are major chemicals in the brain one has to come down from after a heartbreak. It is a combination of dopamine and oxytocin (the feel good chemicals of being in a relationship/sex) your brain is fighting the lack of. Also, we are all fighting the lifelong conditioning of society's view of relationships--the need for validation through female relations. It took a divorce and two brutal breakups for me to finally find this sub. I've been digesting this info for over a year, yet it is tough to forget the good times you had with someone. Hang in there man and know that you are definitely not alone!

2020-02-15T16:46:31+00:00

Time will heal your emotional pain. You need to forget about her first. Delete anything and everything about her from your life - Her pictures, phone number, email address, etc.

Do something else to occupy your time so you don't think about her. Learn a new skill or pick up a new sport or go to the gym. Do stuff and get her out of your head.

Forgetting someone who you cared about but betrayed you is not a sprint race. It's a marathon. You'll have to endure, keep yourself occupied and eventually you'll forget her.

xShapez · 2020-02-15T16:47:15+00:00

I saw it on the news, scientists made a vaccine to kill some of the '' vazopressin '' hormones. Although, it might be fake news as usual, or just a super scam with superfictional prices. lol

MoonshoeBooBoos · 2020-02-15T19:39:46+00:00

Quit calling yourself a beta. That simp and cuck bullshit is for small minded fools that think the world fits into 2 boxes. Just because your perceptions have changed doesn't mean that what you felt on your end of the relationship wasn't real and that you don't still long for that emotional intimacy or want it to be like it was. Like /u/og_snake says simping is when you're chasing someone who isn't interested.

When you realize that women can just pack up and leave with 0 weight on the past or any sense of commitment because they just want something new it fucks with you. It doesn't mean that you don't still long for it, you just realize the odds are heavily stacked against you. If you can't tell the difference between the one that will embrace you then discard you after years and children and the one that won't and even retroactively you can't see any red flags on how you could have made a better decision you have to decide how much of a risk you're willing to take in the future. Enjoy a relationship but never get married? Ignore women completely? Date but don't cohabitate? Risk losing the next relationship once she finds out you don't want marriage? It's up to you really but no matter what you are not weak for loving or having been vulnerable or wanting what you had back. It's just about being realistic going forward.

The best advice that I can give you about moving on even though it's a bit of a platitude and is a continual process Is that you have to try to frame things in a way that makes you realize she wasn't the person you really thought that she was and the person that you loved.

311kx · 2020-02-15T23:50:52+00:00

Out of sight, out of mind.

Throw yourself at work for a couple months. Work 80-100 hour weeks and stack the cash. You'll be too busy and too tired to think about her.

Then take all that money you just made and take a vacation.

Title	How to forget her completely?
Author	Jetleg26
Upvotes	34
Comments	17
Date	February 15, 2020 1:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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