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Was late to the party and didn't get to see how this car crash ended, anyone know?

ahmfaegovan · 2019-11-27T17:24:16+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/drgt2o/final_update_my_son_17_found_a_sex_tape_of_my/  It's been removed but I want to...

ahmfaegovan

November 27, 2019

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Title	Was late to the party and didn't get to see how this car crash ended, anyone know?
Author	ahmfaegovan
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	November 27, 2019 5:24 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/e2jawe/was_late_to_the_party_and_didnt_get_to_see_how/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/was-late-to-the-party-and-didnt-get-to-see-how.386236 https://theredarchive.com/post/386236

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[–]softbeats0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

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[–]StiuNu2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

So I wasn't going to post anything more, especially after the reception my last posts received, but it's very early and I'm not doing anything for a while yet so I decided to let everyone know how it all turned out.

Sorry to disappoint but: I haven't killed myself, my children don't hate me, and my life isn't in ruins. So for those of you who told me to "neck myself" and everyone who decided that my relationship with my children was ruined forever, I sincerely pity how terrible a relationship you had with your parents and hope you never breed.

Anyways, my last post yielded little advice and consisted mostly of people telling me how fucked everything was (shoutout to u/sabreyna for actually giving some advice) so I decided to just ignore you all and do what I thought was best.

I went to see my sister on the Saturday morning and when I arrived she seemed surprised to see me but invited me in anyway. She explained that her shortness over text was because she was dealing with her own problems with her/my children. She told me that Cousin was being bullied by my Daughter at school apparently for no reason. I realized it must be about her blabbing about the tape so I explained the situation (leaving out the contents of the tape obviously cause I'm not stupid). She decided to punish her daughter for being disrespectful of someone indulging sensitive information and we agreed that I would talk to my daughter about how wrong her behavior had been. (Yes she is religious but she isn't insane and she doesn't judge me).

I decided to let my kids stew without their electronics until the Sunday while I helped my wife pull herself out of her shame spiral. After a long day of helping and supporting her she seemed to snap out of it and slept peacefully for the first time since this all happened which I was very grateful for. On the Sunday we decided as a team to sit down with our kids and talk to them again. We started with out daughter as she seemed easier to deal with.

We sat her down and I explained to her that what she did was similar to me reading her diary and then telling other people what was written in it. There's nothing wrong with having a diary and there's certainly nothing wrong with what was written in it, but it is embarrassing to have others know. She understood the example and apologized. We then got onto the topic of the cousin and explained that, while what cousin did was very wrong, she shouldn't be so hard on her and to stop with the bullying. Our daughter agreed although she said their friendship was done and I said that was fair enough. We gave her back her electronics and reduced the grounding to a week (what she did was still wrong and so requires punishment).

We next called down our son and talked to him about why he was punished. His mother is his mother and no child, regardless of the reason, has any right to talk to their mother the way he did, same goes for me. He apologized for what he said and then we talked about schools and if he wanted to change school. He was genuinely scared that we were going to switch his schools and he explained that the bullying wasn't that bad, just some "loser kids" who were throwing stuff at him and hassling him in the halls. My son is very well liked at his school and has many friends and loves his sports so we decided not to move school. I did the same with him that I did with my daughter and gave him back his electronics.

During the week I got a call from his school that he had been in a fight and was facing suspension so I went to the school and it turns out he got fed up of the harassment and beat up one of the "bullies". The principal was talking serious punishment but I told him to fuck himself and explained that my son was standing up for himself against people who were using sensitive information to bully him. At the end of the day it was decided that a series of detentions was more appropriate for both people involved which we accepted as a compromise. I told my son I was proud of him for standing up for himself and that he wouldn't get any punishment at home.

As for the whole community finding out, well it turns out that adults don't tend to believe children when they talk gossip (shocking I know) and all that is known is that my wife and I have a sex tape. So no one cares, or at least no one we care about cares.

So we are back to a sort of normal. The kids are talking to us again and eating dinner at the table and we are all a lot calmer, if still a bit tense. In the future we will be A LOT more careful about this kind of thing.

To address a few things from the last post: Yes the world isn't fair, but why should I then teach my children to contribute to that unfairness? Answer: I shouldn't.

Why just punish the kids, what about your punishment? LOL parenting isn't quid-pro-quo.

The laptop did have a password on it. It was unlocked as I had been using it barely 10 minutes earlier.

There is nothing wrong, neither morally nor ethically, with recording a sex tape of consenting adults. People calling me and my wife degenerates can crawl back to whatever sad little hole they crawled out of.

Anyway, I wont bother reading any replies to this so spare me your vitriol. Just wanted you all to know what it worked out fine.

[–]guestere0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link