So I've been lurking here for a few months now and feel like it's time to give back. For other young guys thinking about this or with similar experiences, heres my story and how I have done things:

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I was engaged to a chick who i was together with from 14... She kissed another guy on my 15th bday at a party we were at, I slapped her, I slapped the dude and huge drama ensued. Broke up with her for 2 years after that, then I went to university in a different country. Her parents move to that country and she came to the SAME university as me. We hooked up in her first year (my second - I spent my first hooking up with a few chicks) then got together again full time. Fast forward 6 years we are together 100% very deep and she goes abroad for school again... we do 1.5 years long distance then decide ok we're going to get married- ring, proposal etc etc. (26m now 27f) and she would be done school in 6 months. After she begins acting weird and we start having drama. I tell her I suspect she's cheating (she had never been with anyone else as far as I knew in life) she declines says no, says i'm crazy blah blah. Eventually I visited her and borrowed her laptop - Anyone who knows apple computers knows that even if you delete messages there is still a record in the imessages cache file in the hidden folder in the library... that shit doesn't get deleted easily. So out of my abundant suspicion in the woman I was about to marry I browse her file searching for keywords... and then boom, I find it all she had been cheating - WITH A GUY WHO WAS ALSO ENGAGED - from just when we got engaged. Other dudes would've been spiteful and tried to ruin his engagement, I didn't give a fuck, never sent the messages to his chick because #1 I feel like thats a bitch move and #2 Let karma and the world deal with people who betray others.

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I was devastated, like absolutely shattered.... Immediately broke up with her, said fuck off, took my ring back and peaced, last time I've ever seen her, 10 years together... blocked her everywhere and was out.. but never said anything to anyone besides my close boys as far as the world knew we were still engaged. The funny part is over a year later I talk to a girl cousin of my who has many mutual friends with her as they all went to school together and she's asking me how come I cheated and why would I ruin this relationship that everyone thought was so perfect. I nearly died... not out of anger but out of pity and laughter... My ex was telling people that I was cheating on HER ...just WOW. I still have all the messages saved somewhere but really couldn't give enough of a fuck about it anymore. My sister has kept my ex on IG and so funny a couple weeks ago messaged me and was like man you got so lucky with that chick.... she has gone DOWNHILL wow (shes soon to be 30f)... I laugh even more because this chick has no concept of keeping money and budgeting or how money works.. She used to get pissed at me for making good financial decisions and not wanting to splurge on shit. So now 2 years post breakup....

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Ex Fiance - 400K approx in debt mainly from school (med school - shitty one) - Still 3-5 years to go if she gets into residency etc. Tried to help her in planning for this, she used to get frustrated.

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Me - Increased net worth by close to 200K, ZERO debt, spent a few more $ on myself and I've literally travelled the world. Also quit smoking weed 100% (picked up habit in college with my ex) which I realized was keeping me depressed and in a hole from emotions from my break up.

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3 weeks after breaking up with my ex, I got together with a very nice but slightly crazy chick who I kept for 1 year and we had crazy crazy sex - mindblowing and I was taking out I'm sure a lot of my built up rage with her and she loved it.... wanted me to fully commit to her... I noped out of that quickly... The same day I broke up with that one I met another chick, she was a nanny - pretty hot and latina... Hooked up with her for a few months as a FWB.. Then decided it was cheaper to keep her around long distance and fly her to wherever it was I wanted to bang since I travelled so much and didn't want to spend on hookers, so every few months buy her a ticket to come hang out for a few days or a week... empty my nuts and good bye.

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So it's been about 6 months really since I found out about redpill etc and realized many things. Now for sure never getting married again... Dodged a fricking Bazooka bullet there... Keeping young 24-27 FWBs to enjoy myself as I need. Zero love and commitment to chicks... Don't mind spending a few dollars on them to have my way since it's cheaper and safer than hookers (in which I do indulge VERY rarely) and lets be real, I'm a man and I enjoy sex and I'm not even 30 yet why on earth would I stop.

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Maybe some might say I'm not fully going my own way, but in reality I have. For me there is no more concept of a relationship other than using them for sex and keeping the lines completely clear from the beginning. In terms of spending money on women, the ONLY money I spend is on what they can do for me, example buying a ticket so she can come fuck ME... no other kind of financial support, or gifts or expensive dates.. none of that.

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I would like kids but I have two very young ones in my immediate family who I can spoil and enjoy without the headache or life change they require. I'm 28 now and I expect to be like this well into my late 30's early 40's when I plan to retire and sail the world on my sailboat and buy a farm in the tropics to do my own sustainable farming, aquaponics etc.

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Mgtow mentality has opened my eyes to fending for myself and my ex opened my eyes to AWALT.

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