So people are defending this dudes wife and basically telling him to be a cuck..

I’m married and have several children. Youngest are 2 and 3 and oldest is a teen and 10 years old. The work I do is mentally, emotionally and physically exhausting. Wife is primarily a stay at home mom which I know is hard work in and of itself. This is not the first time we have gotten into fights over stuff like this. So, AITAH?

Edit: I work as a registered nurse on medical surgical and telemetry. The demands on my time are to total strangers that are at times very sick. I wipe complete strangers asses multiple times per day and I have told my wife that on any given day I probably change more diapers and wipe more behinds than she does. And it’s not cute little baby bottoms that we created. It’s the elderly, the trauma patient, the demented patient, the mentally ill and so on.

I’m also not referring to every night after a 12 hour shift. I’m talking about nights where I’ve pulled off a string of them. That’s what exhausts me. If you catch me after the first few I’m fine for the most part. I’ll help with baths and bed time. I’ll read the kids a book. I’ll help with homework if mom didn’t have the time. I do these things willingly and with a smile because they are my kids too. My wife doesn’t have to ask me to do the dishes because I just do it. That’s why when crap like this happens (no pun intended) it throws me for a fkn loop.

Also some have asked if she works. She has a small business that she has had going on 7 years. I’m proud of her and what she is able to do and accomplish with so much on her plate. It makes her happy. When she comes home after being on her feet for 6-9 hours she acts as if she’s dying and immediately heads for the bed room (migraines) and I never give her tasks or chores to do I just let her be. Let her recover.

Also feel the need to add I’m enrolled in an online masters program which places more demand on my time to eventually get out of working all these 12s and have a better schedule.