I have been in the MGTOW community for a while now, and I love this lifestyle. Granted I still get my depression days, and I suppose it's normal while making the transition. But I hear a lot of conflicting information. I primarily listen to Barbarossa, TFM, and FACEandLMS. But I came across a video by this guy named Monday FA Monday. And he made a video about why jerks have girlfriends and you dont. And he basically says that if you make a bad first impression but are good at being a good boyfriend, then you will never get in a relationship because your good traits arent what people are looking for at first to date you or something. I'll leave the video here :https://youtu.be/s_VC8VNX_sk

It sounds like it makes sense. But when I watched tfm and bar bar and faceandlms, they say things like it doesnt matter what you do, if you arent within what women are commonly attracted to, you have low chances. It confuses me why this guy talks about first impressions when it doesnt matter what you do anyways.. sorry if my post seems confusing.