Handling men blatantly ignoring me

128 points44 commentssubmitted by feministbride to r/AskFeminists

I’m not sure if this is the right place for this, but I figured I’d try...yesterday I was selling a boat on Facebook. I was in correspondence with this guy all day about this boat- giving him information on the motor registration etc. I’m very careful with doing anything on the internet, so I set up the exchange at the local police station (they actually have an exchange place). I am around 5’ tall and 115 lbs- so I bring my male fiancé to help haul the boat on our truck and just as general backup. I get there and this guy doesn’t look or speak to me at all- he is talking to my fiancé as if he was the one who had been talking to him all day. When it was time for us to settle on a price the guy TURNED HIS BACK ON ME to face my fiancé and asked what he wanted for it. My fiancé looked at me and I said my price. He handed the money to my fiancé when I was writing and SIGNING the bill of sale...nothing I can do now but it was really upsetting. I wish my fiancé hadn’t answered the guys questions and had just directed him to me, I also wish he had made the guy hand me the money. All things I will talk to him about because this isn’t the first time something like this has happened. Advice? Am I overreacting? Edit: the guy messaged me later that night to ask a question and called me my fiancé’s name- as if he was talking to my fiancé. He is/has been messaging me personally on Facebook?!?! What the heck?!?!