I have been alone for 4 years, and I like it, like it, and like it. I like the solitude of it, I like how I do not need to compromise, I like not dealing with petty fight.
But,
Amidst this happiness, lately, I feel my body is raising a white flag to the sorrow of this loneliness. I start getting angry more easily, being more asshole, just to cover myself from this sorrow. And yesterday, I found myself staring at this couple for more than 1 minute in an envious manner. Thus, I do not know if I am just a pretentious loner, and do I need to be in a relationship?
But,
I was deeply scarred by my previous relationship. I was with a horrible woman who is selfish and manipulative. So, the idea of being in a relationship still scares me.
Just petty, petty, petty. Ain’t I?
[–]DangZagnut3 points4 points5 points (3 children) | Copy Link
They love solitude but they're lonely?
I just don't get it.
[–]AdrenalineJunkySloth2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
No one likes or wants to be lonely. They just choose to be sometimes because having someone isn't always a good trade off. You MAY have someone there but you also have to deal with fights, annoyances, pettiness, money, time, etc. That plus you may also still be lonely anyways if it's not the right person.
I think they love solitude in the sense that they love not having to deal with anything. No headache. Freedom. Etc. But the price of that is becoming lonely.
[–]deathtocontrollers1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I was born as an extrovert and social butterfly. I was born to be a social person. But life turned me into an introvert, loner and MGTOW monk because the truth is, it's either that or getting fucked over, constantly. Like you said, there is only one intelligent option after doing a cost benefit analysis regardless of who you are... Guys like me in this sub are basically no different than the main character in the book, I Am Legend.
[–]NAILmg42[S] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Because validation, hope and females are not defeated within their minds yet. They can be no gift to themselves yet as BP men. You will see hope and validation through women still strongly present all through that sub, and therefore they have loneliness -just high and low points of it they mistake for solitude. A mgtow anchor to our solitude is indifference to women so hope and validation are impossible and correctable.
P.S. keep making money you fabulous bastard.
[–]pwnzusauce0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Better to get a dog.
[–]ncarolina660 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Everyone gets this way....
Here is the blueprint out of it.
Make good money and live your life for YOU. Allow (if you want) woman into your life in order to come along for the journey (YOUR journey) but they MUST do so totally on YOUR terms. To make this work, YOU have to also STICK with what you set out as your rules/terms with no slipping...
As for instance, if you don't like short hair or nose rings or nagging on a woman, tell her this upfront that you won't put up with this BS. Tell her she can join you in accompanying you on your life's journeys (be they camping trips, travel, watching movies, bowling, whatever....) and as long as it's good, comfortable and she plays by YOUR rules, go with it and enjoy. As soon as she breaks one of your rules or starts doing stupid female shit (nagging, complaining, etc.) don't get upset, don't get emotional, don't fight, just unemotionally BREAK UP and move on to the Next woman that wants to spend time with you on your terms.
Is it hard, yes....guys also fall in love (DON'T, they are all the same) and that is where they get fucked up. Stick to your own set of rules and remember what you have to lose if you succumb to relationshits, marriage, children, etc....Come back to this forum, read celebrity divorce rape stories, listen to your friends unhappy marriage stories and get back to your happy MGTOW life.
It's not easy but any guy can do this if you put your mind to it and don't waver when things get rough or lonely or you are shammed by friends and family to get married, etc.
Good Luck!
PS - Or don't do any of the above and just bang a hooker every couple weeks or travel on a sex vacation every couple months to fulfill your need for pussy....that works too!