This was originally going to be a answer comment to another post? My answer quickly grew too long, so, i composed it into a post of my own...

I do like to be fair, and completely balanced. Around the time i started watching my first couple "sandman" videos? After a few red pills a couple nights? I clicked on a couple OTHER "recommended videos".

ONE caught my eye. I watched a few of his videos.

first half of the vodeos he did? would be "instructional", the second half? demonstrations...

With hidden "suit button cam" he went in the FIRST club? explaining HE would be the ALPHA... and his buddy would be the BETA... huh. The next club? they SWITCHED... and i admit it WAS so obvious? it was ridiculous. The BETA couldn't so much as ask what TIME IS IT? without a THOT screaming at him what a pervert he was... the ALPHA? could tell the same girl she was a "dirty little whore"... and she LAUGHED and said "you have no idea, baby..."

the thing was? was that it didnt matter which guy played which part. They were just ACTING, except acting in real life.

well? I'm half a scientist? This should be "replicable" as an experiment.

I decided to "test" this bullshit.

One thing he said? was stupid stuff, like... "you dont him and haw over what you want when you order food... you STATE what you WANT, firmly but politely. Period. You have to order your food LIKE A MAN. You want a day off at work? You dont ask, you politely TELL them. Everything works like this... try it."

I admitted to myself? at the truck stop me and a couple guys hit 3 nights a week? I am "guilty" of himming and hawing. As a TEST? I started just STATING what i WANTED... politely. I simply planned on the drive to go out... when the menu came? I just SAID what i WANTED. politely and quietly.

within 2 weeks? this ONE waitress? I stood up to go hit the bathroom (we all dont really drink, coffee and food nights out? are our going out drinking thingy) anyways, i just stood up to go piss?

this single waitress, 10 years younger than me? is just a-SMILING at me? "gee... I never realized just how TALL you really are...", kinda blinking at me, smiling, that doe in the headlights look... (I'm 6 foot even. I aint "jacked", but, i lift a little, i know i look DECENT for a guy my age)

I ALSO realized? in my head? she was really saying "I never noticed how masculine you are before", it was a code word for she "noticed me". She doesnt even REALIZE its only because i started "ordering food correctly". She doesnt even know "why".

after that? she started hanging around bullshitting with the three of us? but, always talking to me more than usual after that. She hired me to fix her computer, gave me her number... i just played it off, and had her bring it into work.

I wasnt LOOKING to get into anything. My one BUDDY? he desperately LIKED her, couldnt get the time of day. I tried pawning the job off on HIM, to get him hooked up... he's the better part of an INCEL.... he wouldnt do it. Fuck it, 100 bucks is 100 bucks.

i will tip my hat to the "basics" ?? it just "works", and, i never realized how much i was "signaling" to the world, mixed signals.

same truck stop? this other waitress, shes a lot younger. Really cute? all the guys like her even though she a hair chubby. Really "cute". also? very extroverted and outgoing... shes the one waitress always works the night shift, and has that deal where you get a little "new york sass" with your meal and coffee, for us "regulars".

same time as "how to order like a man"? I learned about "shit tests". She does it ALL the time. I had to recognize it, play it off as a joke, and laugh. SO? i'm outside having a smoke, here she comes. "here... hold my coffee." (thats an ORDER, i dont take orders, i give them, although politely...) "Right..." I laughed, and set it on the window ledge, while she digs in her purse for smokes and lighter.

"If that falls off of there, YOU are is SO much troub-"

"Yeah, yeah... you get it for free, you work here. It falls and gravity does its thing? I'll just go in and pour you a new one. No biggie."

and she starts LAUGHING.... i laughed with her.

(wow. shit test passed... holy shit...)

i did notice? she went to shit testing my 2 buddies, and more or less hardly ever did it to me anymore.

like i said at the outset? I tip my hat to the BASICS. I could have really used this stuff, when i was young and dating. I could have REALLY used it, for years with my "long term keeper", it would have basically saved our failed relationship.

I could have REALLY used it back when i was still in the office, a computer programmer.

but? as a mature adult? who doesnt even CARE anymore? its just a "fun toy" to me now...

the other weird thing i noticed? my 2 buddies i went there with. The one started treating me slightly differently. He quit talking over me as much, suddenly my ideas or observations were magically more "valid".

Like i said at the outset? I like the BASICS. It definitely "works". For ME? I think its best used... in the background. I think its "a bit much" for all these young guys to go around, P-R-E-T-E-N-D-I-N-G to be something they might not be. Pushing everyone out of the way. Talking LOUD. Laughing LOUD. Putting everyone down around them...

my GOD... power suit, power shoes, power words in conversation... always gotta be the big cheese, look at me, strutting around like a peacock. It gets... "silly".

you know, theres a fine line between "being a type A personality" and "being a type A-sshole". Its like a cup of coffee? a little, or, even a lot of sugar? wonderful thing... half sugar and half coffee? makes you sick.

we ALL recognize THOTs ? as... fake, plastic, acting. Flash over real core substance. Too much of this stuff? To ME, is simply the MALE EQUIVALENT of a... "thot".

Dont get me wrong. Youre "jacked"? GOOD fucking SHIT... take your shirt off when its appropriate to do so, and let people see, women will notice... other dudes will be impressed too. Dont feel a need for every conversation to make sure EVERYONE knows how much you bench press. Just smile, and rock yer abs.

you go too far down the path? Your job, your clothes, your workout, your car, your hobbies? every single thing is dedicated to one single purpose... way-men.

your entire LIFE is dedicated to multiple women, instead of one single one.

do it for YOURSELF.

heres another tip? Its "natural" for young men "out" around the ladies? To start putting each other down, trying to have the best one liner put downs, making fun of each others income, car, house, appearance, etc etc...

it makes us all look like a bunch of idiots. Me and my best friend in college? WE did this to each other, non stop. HE had the car and the better side job? I had the tall height and muscles, and the "wit" for one liners and jokes... it was ridiculous.

after college? i went down to his city for a month one summer? we started it all over again, out at the clubs. HE had the harley, I had a speed jap bike. we're ripping on each other bike, and everything else... I got him aside?

"Hey... why dont we work TOGETHER? we could try pointing out each others STRENGTHS instead of pointing out each others WEAKNESSES... we could BOTH get laid, you know?"

we DID that... it worked better! (winning!)

in summation? you COULD continue "pretending to be" an ALPHA... or? just a thought? how about... actually BECOMING an alpha? check this out...

1) a REAL alpha? is a LEADER, not a bully. Not just a show off peacock.

2) a REAL leader? takes care of his FLOCK. The "alpha animal" is not just there to get the best of everything for himself? He is RESPONSIBLE for making sure the lesser members of the pack? have what they want and need, too.

3) a "real" pack? everyone has their purpose. In my "pack" when i was young? we had one of everything. one mechanic, one construction guy, one electrician, one HVAC guy, one guy with "the house", one guy for computers. AND yeah, we had one guy who could magically go to the bar, and bring a PACK of girls back for the party... he had mad skills.

4) we all helped each other out, and did things for each other. Sure, we fucked with each other? we hazed each other pretty hard... but, only to a point.

5) you know what else really impressed me? I was about the tallest, most muscular kid in the pack? I wasnt the toughest. Our 3 smallest dudes? THOSE were the real fighters. Two of them were "state class wrestlers" and the other was a "golden gloves champ". It NEVER failed to impress me? watching these "little guys" go through "jacked up" weightlifter wanna-bes? like fucking TISSUE PAPER.

6) pretty much? same thing went for the guys that "took karate"... these little guys ate them for lunch.

7) our "alpha"? now that i know to CALL him that? littlest dude there, honest to god. ALways had the best ideas. ALways took care of everybody. Always knew someone we needed something. he wasnt even the richest of us, he wasnt even the guy with the best job or house. He damn sure wasnt the guy with the biggest muscles. Little tiny guy.

8) but? our "alpha" was a REAL LEADER, he wasnt just out for himself, he was... out for ALL of us.

take it all for what its worth. But... ask yourself...

lets say you are in your 20s? Do you... want to become an ACTOR, who just PRETENDS to be an action hero one day? pretends another day to be a LEADING LADIES MAN? another day pretends to be a "CEO guy"?

or? do you wanna actually learn HOW to actually BECOME one? to have the CHANCE to actually become something great? not just something "good".

just... maybe give it some thought? try not to be a complete "male THOT", you know?

and? a lot of you 5'6", 140lb guys? might be "real" alphas, and just dont realize it...