Was hanging out with few friends and started noticing that guys would always hug the pretty girl in our group, sometimes the hugs went for a bit too long, kinda uncomfortable you know what Im sayin'. Anyways, so I asked about why the fuck would they hug her everytime they had a chance to and the responses I got were "because I like her" or "Because thats how you greet with women" (That one's fucking bullshit since we have a "less pretty" girl in our group too, kinda introverted and nobody would even think about hugging her, man.)

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So I decided to fuck with the system and started hugging too (and I obviously fucking asked before hugging, tried to be like down to earth with it), now I also started hugging the less pretty girl and thaaat gave me some interesting results as there started to be a double standard, everyone thought I liked her or that it was weird/inappropriate - to which I responded "oh thats how you greet women dude". Its absolutely sad to see how these dudes are hanging out with the pretty one only most likely because of her looks, or they are at least giving her special attention because of her looks.

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I've also noticed that there is a massive difference when Im hanging out only with dudes vs when Im hanging out with dudes and girls. The guys are always so fucking on it with the girls, thats basically all they care about, most of them anyway, its fucking disappointing to see they would betray their fucking male friends for the females, dude. I was fucking hanging out with this girl, lets call her "Alexandra" and this other guy, lets call him, lets say "Brad". Brad is fucking cool, coz he is the type of fellow that actually cares about ALL his friends. So we are hanging out yada yada and a fellar comes around and joins us and the thing is, he wants to the date "Alexandra" so he fucking acts like a dickhead and starts basically pushing us away from "Alexandra", like at one instance Brad would start talking to Alexandra and the fellow that likes her just fucking came to him and started awkwardly PHYSICALLY pushing him away and making these odd jokes like "Come on man, dont get in my territory" and that shit. Yea we kinda laughed at it, but it was pathetic as fuck dude.

I always knew that people are shit but I never realized how bad it was man, it fucking makes me angry, because it makes everything less enjoyable, you CANNOT go out with girls at this point without making it awkward/uncomforable.

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Oh yea and ONE last thing, I dont get the whole "get a girlfriend" deal, I mean sure I guess if you find the right one there is a chance that you might carry the burden of life together, but its like, Im 19 and I dont feel like I wanna get a girlfriend, especially after finding out these things. Plus I had "girlfriends" in the past but it was the "teenage discovery" type of deal, like it wasnt nothing real, I believe.

What do you think about it?

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Also on the note of girls as friends, like, it starts to feel like guys are just around girls either because of their appearance/looks or (thats I think the rare one) because she is enough interesting to be considered an actual friend, so like his male friends and its quite god damn depressing to be fair. This is just my observations I have no sources to back this up tho, it might be different for everybody I dont know. Its like, the more you know about girls psychologically the less you want to be with them man, but that goes for males too, it goes for everything, its really scary.

Sometimes you just predict someones behaviour and it actually does fucking happen, its insane, I wish I didnt get interested in these types of things man.