Am I being paranoid (40M) or is my wife cheating (35F) ?

223 points•201 comments•submitted by thrwy901 to r/relationship_advice

Married male (about 8 years) with two kids aged 2 and 6. About 4 yrs ago we had to terminate a pregnancy because of severe birth defects issues and our marriage has never been the same. She also started a new job a year back and since then she has been ever more secretive

  1. My wife is super secretive about her phone when she didn't use to. Her IPhone used to have storage issues because she was not deleting her messages and now while driving I have occasionally glanced to see her delete her read messages right away
  2. Few weeks back she came back from her trip 12 hrs later and she called me stating she missed her flight but later she confessed she was back but she decided to check into a hotel because she needed some time by her self
  3. Few days ago when she went on a work trip for few days and I had to take care of the kids both in the morning and evening and really needed her because I was lagging behind in work she told me that her job was on the line the next day because of an important deadline and she didn't come home all night. I asked her next morning and she said she was working all night on a report with her colleagues. When I was driving her car over the weekend I came across hotel receipt for that night that showed her checking in at 11pm and checking out at 6am. Initially she said she and her boss decided to worked late and decided to take a nap together but later said her boss and her shared different rooms
  4. Because of 3) I searched her history on her computer and found thinks like 'what to do when your boss is a sexual predator' and 'how to deal with a sexual relationship at work' ?

what would you do if you were in my shoes ?