I’m a 30yr old male and the last 5 years have been pretty significant. Here’s my story. Abridged.

25yr old Aimless. College dropout. Shitty relationships w girls wanting to just get married cause of peer pressure and came close to locking myself in an engagement twice. Heavy partier to mask unhappiness.

26yr old Exit crappy relationship. Quit partying. Switched career field. Started back at school.

26-28yr. School going well. Work fun job, good money, meet lots of people. Getting fit/eat well Buy stuff for me(motorcycles, car, clothes) Look good, am confident, focused like laser.

28yr Attract 11/10 girl. Red flags w/ validation, insecure, hot/cold. Hot/cold annoys me, stop giving her attention. She HAS to have me now. Relationship..

29yr. Sick of her bs, miss 26-28yr old me, dump her. She w new Other guy 10 days later, after a year w me. They fight, can’t stay stable. Plays “miss you/think of you all the time” Start chilling, things warming up. Suddenly NO when I try restart button, tell her I still have feels. Other Guy was backburner, why she play hot/cold, he came back around after seeing her w me.. Broken. Should’ve stayed away.

Realize: I was played like a pawn by a self absorbed woman who’s biggest concern was an aesthetically pleasing social media presence. Other guy is now a shell of his old greatness, resources going fast, but blind to this pretty vampire.

30yr old.. Healed somewhat then found this community, extra woke/healed now. Found 26-28yr old self again. Buy shit for me. Preparing to apply to grad schools Be getting fit/eat well again. Attracting 12/10, 13/10 girls now. See motives. Never again.

“I was playing chess having only played checkers.. Now am chess grandmaster playing checkers w 5yr olds.”

Experienced warriors have battle scars.

Am warrior.