My (26M) GF (23F) wanted me to eat her out while eating food insistently, i said no (after conforming to her wishes a few times) and now shes extremely upset and volatile. What do i do to dissolve this peacefully?

I've been with my GF Sam (Alias) for about 2 years now, met her in my last days of med school. She was doing English major and had finished and become a teacher since then. We've been mostly fit like gloves with each other, share the same values and ethics etc. I've actually been speaking to family and friends about wifing her soon.

We've always had this sort of unspoken agreement that whenever anyone of us wanted to live out a fantasy or experiment, the other would always comply to this best of their ability. Until of late, we've more or less always stuck to this rule, and both have been pretty happy with it and each other.

Two weeks ago, i asked her if she was willing to swallow (second time i requested this since I've met her). I did this jokingly, giving her plenty room to back out of it if she felt uncomfortable. Her eyes lit up, she agreed enthusiastically and left me very satisfied that night. The following days, she did it for me again about half a dozen of times of her own accord, i told her its she didn't have to, but since she was happy doing it and i found it quite pleasurable as well, why not?

Last Tuesday morning she vaguely told me she wanted me to 'Put my tongue to use' for the night. I agreed of course. What i didn't know was her fantasy was to watch a 1hr 55min movie and be pleasured from start to finish. I hesitated at first, but then told myself she has more than earned this. I put my head on the pillow that night with an aching jaw, neck and a mildly throbbing left elbow (the way i was sitting).

Usually i don't mind pleasuring her this way, in fact it turns me on quite a bit, but when she asked me to do it again for her on Thursday, i barely stopped myself from sighing, my jaw hadn't fully healed yet (Didn't make a single complain about it). I wanted to refuse, but seeing her sitting there looking all sexy (I love the way she looks just before work) i couldn't bring myself to say no. While i was pleasuring her through another movie, she called for pizza delivery. The pizza came near the end of the movie and my pleasure-turned-to-agony. My stomach said yes to food, but my tongue and jaw were screaming NO.

'Try it! just to change the taste (lol)' she said, offering me a slice. I groaned inwards but told myself i don't want to ruin the experience for her now, better talk to her tomorrow about it. The mixing of tastes can only be described as weird/incompatible. I downed the slice as quickly as i could and went to the toilet as an excuse to run out on her for the last ~10 mins of the movie. Ok, done for the night--talk to her tomorrow.

Only couldn't have the talk with her next morning because of an emergency call at the hospital in early hours, by the time i returned 20 hrs later i just didn't have the energy to talk or sex, and forgot the thing in its entirety.

Come Saturday, i'm waiting for her to come home from work with lunch before i leave for my afternoon shift. She comes back with these sandwiches from a local fast food joint that we eat from occasionally--not our regular food. I asked her whats this, she gleefully told me it a 'new type of meal'. She refreshened while i patiently waited for her (we always try to eat together) after changing she just smiled at me in her bath towel, picked the food, and went to the sofa. 'Lunch's ready!' she said; with her legs wide open invitingly, and a burger sitting on her crotch.

I laughed at the absurdity, kissed her down there gently and opened up my burger, one hand around her waist. After two bites she said she wanted me down there, working my tongue. My mind was at work and i wasn't in the mood to have a talk there and then. I shrugged and went to work on her, having a bite here and there. 2 mins later she tells me to rub the bun into her. At first i said no (very uncomfortable) she said 'think of it as 1000 island sauce' jokingly. I gave in and did it to make her happy.

Problem is, when i cam back late at night there was another burger sitting on her crotch.

Now i'm a pretty chill person, and confrontation isn't my forte. And adding the work stress to that, i was in no mood for any talks whatsoever. So i stiffened, said not right now, grabbed my bun and regressed to my 'man-cave' which is my PC. About half an hour later i went to our bed to sleep and found Sam in a weeping mess. I tried to comfort her but she kept pushing me away; saying she wasn't good enough for me, my PC is more important than her, etc. I said everything i could think of to make the situation better, including apologizing for asking her to swallow. Nothing worked. I slept on the couch.

Just a few hours later i woke up to sounds of Sam shuffling around in prep for work. I made breakfast for her and sat directly in front of her as she ate, waiting for her to say something--anything. When she was ready to leave i leaned in to kiss her and she said in a shaking voice 'instead of dating an ugly teacher like me why don't go f those bimbo nurses that you always f about with'

I was so shocked that before i could think of a word to say she slammed the door in my face and left. When she came back same time as Saturday i tried to engage with her again in a calm conversation. But everytime i'd make a point about how she's overreacting, that i love her, that i'm absolutely loyal--basically Anything--she'd always bring it back to 'i'm too ugly/fat/stupid' {which isn't true at all}

Been like this since then, nothing is working. I tried with her again earlier a few hours and it ended up in her shouting and throwing, tbh, quite damning and hurtful accusations at me.

As i said before--I'm not confrontational; put me in a shouting match and i'll walk away. So here i am, in my 'man-cave' PC (as Sam likes to call it) asking you guys/gals for guidance. wtf do i do. I can't deal with a chaotic relationship on top of a stressful job.

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EDIT: I've sporadically been reading all your comments since i posted my issue. Thank you--everyone for giving your time. I will start replying to your comments soon, and try to implement the advice you guys gave when i return home.

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Update: Not sure if anyone will follow up on this, but this will be my last post on this account:

I followed your advises and tried to listen and communicate with Sam to the best of my abilities. We made up and apologized to each other for our mishaps, she for being irrational and I did for apparently being apathetic. Things seemed returned to normal until today out of the blue Sam asked me for my phone. I gave it to her and after she was done i told her its her turn.

Her harsh refusal to my insistent request for the phone, along with what happened earlier, utterly broke my trust in her. We are not together anymore.