How can I bounce back from being Beta.

EpicLevelCheater · 2017-09-04T17:46:33+00:00

You can start by not posting questions to the main sub. Banned.

Antares5 · 2017-09-04T17:01:22+00:00

Answers to your questions :

1) Yes.

2) No. You have given her too much attention already. Just move on and try another chick.

3) Grow a pair

akashdas221 · 2017-09-04T17:04:09+00:00

Nice to see you're looking to adopt this. It'll change your life in big ways. I'm also 20, so I'm not as experienced as others on this sub, but I'm sure, just like anyone else, you need to read the sidebar to understand what this is all about. Study it. Digest it. Also, per your questions, reference the AskTRP sub.

I'll give you some insight though - move on. You've already put yourself in a provider mindset with no physicality. Work on your SMV and go from there.

Good luck, and welcome!

IcyJordo24 · 2017-09-04T17:30:57+00:00

I wouldn't identify yourself as a ESTJ or any of that stuff. Figure out what makes you a beta I suppose and then fix those problems. A lot of it is mind made. And maybe she wanted to fuck the first date but you didn't lay the moves down on her. Be open to what she wants. If she's hot as shit she's probably looking for a good time.

biggerbetterjobs · 2017-09-04T17:33:38+00:00

It's not a loss.. It's just dating. That's how things go most of the time. Two people meet, establish they find each other attractive enough to fool around in the bedroom, then get sick of each other after a while. It happens more often with people who are chronically single.

For example, I was in a similar situation last spring. Cute chick, talented, great personality, i loved the way she smelled and she kept her apartment nice and clean.. had great time on dates together, but she was kind of flaky, but still made a point to see me (she traveled for work a lot all over the world and had a super busy schedule..) I was going through some stressful shit in my personal life too (got arrested for some dumb shit and getting dragged through court) on top of finals period at school, work, being constantly broke, and the looming to-be punishment I would face in court.

Anyway I sent this chick a text message and didn't get a reply for like 5 days. She said she had out of town friends visiting and she missed the text.. But I figured it was just good time to ghost since she didn't seem too eager to see me, it wouldn't be a big deal. I was going to be moving 4 hours away for 2 months anyway for a job.

There's lots of ins and lots of outs to peoples' personal lives and rejection isn't always something personal. Sometimes people just simply aren't at a place where a romantic committed relationship where you see each other all the time is on the table as an option. Sometimes people have the threat of jail looming over their mind, have to take business trips, crazy work life, had a shitty break up so they're ultra wary about entering relationships etc...

Just don't take anything personally, keep improving, keep lifting, keep doing you. Most people get sick of whoever they're dating once the infatuation period wanes anyway. It's kind of like moving in with a best friend. Seems good in theory, but when you spend all your time around your best friend you get sick of their quirks and want some space or whatever. We also reflect on our oneitis relationships and might sometimes miss them reflecting on your happiest moments together.. But you forget what drove you to end the relationship or forget it was so toxic it caused you to be a depressed self-loathing cuckboi blooper.

NeoreactionSafe · 2017-09-04T17:42:38+00:00

"She doesn't feel like she is a good enough person to be in a committed relationship"

Translation:

"I view you as beta, but do not want you to be aware I do. Therefore I create this idea that there is some deep victimhood related problem which will make you sympathize with me yet be unlikely to ever break the beta orbiting pattern. It's a win for me and a loss for you because since you are a Nice Guy™ you are totally blind to how much I'm fucking with your head with all this nonsense."

She is in very clear terms lying to you in a normal Fluid female deceptive way.

The Red Pill is all about exposing the crime we call "female".

Title	How can I bounce back from being Beta.
Author	GordonKai
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	September 4, 2017 4:46 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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