help?

PrinceRaj53 · 2019-05-03T04:47:36+00:00

Its a shame that society has come to this now. Men, the builders of this civilization and pretty much everything, is in this situation now.

What a world.

CiceroVoltaire · 2019-05-03T05:03:47+00:00

You need to look within yourself, find your inner strength, embrace it. You are a man, you control your life, your destiny.

Don't worry what society does, believes or how it acts. Focus on what you need to do to get through school successfully. This is the career and future you want. Think about soldiers who had to persevere to survive against all odds. There was a story about a Japanese soldier from WWII who was alone on an island, he was forgotten and discovered in the 1970s, still doing his job, in fact his commanding officer had to tell him to surrender because he refused. Crazy? Perhaps. But he was dedicated to what he believed. He did not know the war had ended, he never lost his focus.

Own your own life, for yourself, for your future, your happiness. Take responsibility, and make your dreams real. For yourself.

Non seviam.

KneeDeepThought · 2019-05-03T09:03:43+00:00

1) get out of mom's house. you can't be your own man when someone else can threaten to make you homeless unless you do x,y,and z which will be done to you constantly and make you miserable.

2) if you really want this job, ok- but you should already be planning your next move before you get in. learn whatever you can and get up the next rung on the ladder. if it's really a hostile or toxic work environment you'll likely have to hold your tongue forever and be under constant scrutiny. that's not sustainable and will burn you out.

3) do whatever you have to but get rid of your debt. work nights and weekends delivering pizza, anything. this will be a stone around your neck for years if you don't throw it off.

4) seek out good male role models. try to find skilled men in your chosen field and learn from them. they will typically be very open to helping young men in your situation and you'll be surprised how good a few kind words will make you feel and how much your life can improve with a tiny bit of sage advice from them. go hang out where they are, share a beer or a coffee and be open to their input- it could change your life.

OatsGYOW · 2019-05-03T05:20:30+00:00

Best solution to feeling emasculated is to go to the gym. I normally don't go out of my way to suggest it, but it sounds like that is what you need

Samuraidweeb · 2019-05-03T06:32:55+00:00

Get a job and find some cheap rent. Win win.

RedPilledSimp · 2019-05-03T08:47:55+00:00

Just take the BS, focus on your studies so you can get out of there (home + school) ASAP. Studies are only a phase and those nag queen teachers are only queen of their hills and will be stuck there the rest of their working life.

pinewoodpine · 2019-05-03T09:29:12+00:00

CiceroVoltaire covered the peptalk, so I'm giving you something more concrete to work on:

Financial independence gives you strength and a sense of control in your life - you don't have to be afraid of your mom anymore if you can simply leave and cut her off from your life. So this is the biggest issue that I personally think that you should tackle first.

1) Get a stable income - get part a time job. Multiple if you have to. That being said, don't fail on your studies. Learn to juggle them effectively.

2) Reduce your expenses - forget about gym memberships, vacations, gifts, electronics, eating out and anything you don't need. (While staying with your mom to save on rent money is the smarter move, if she is becoming too much of a pain (financially, physically and emotionally), find a cheap place to stay.)

3) Take care of that debt as soon as possible - and DON'T take on anymore new debts. (You DID mean you're 12,000 in debt, right?)

4) To help with 2 & 3, make a budget. Don't worry if you blow the first few months, you'll get better.

Once you are financially independent, that should take away some sense of powerlessness from you. From then on, read, go to the gym, learn new skills/refine learned skills, take on new hobbies, expand your social circle, etc. Grow. Don't ignore your own mental health while taking care of your finances though so seek professional help when you need to as well.

Here's a resource that can help you with all that: https://www.artofmanliness.com/

It's not going to be easy, but grit your teeth and push on. I wish you success in your endeavors.

DT1726 · 2019-05-03T09:56:13+00:00

what do i do?

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5tEELgWBfKbA9fVPRzBzPQ

If you need a father figure then look no further. Also meditate frequently ,don't masturbate and don't eat sugar.

At 24, your life has only just begun. Stay away from women and relationship, they are detrimental to your development. Keep working on yourself everyday while living frugally.

Good luck.

2019-05-03T10:08:54+00:00

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astuteglute · 2019-05-03T11:36:25+00:00

If you want it go get it. It doesn't matter how and it wont if you want it. Live in a damn van and use the school gym showers and student loans and or work for food and laundry. Rent a room off craigslist.

shampoosmooth · 2019-05-03T13:05:57+00:00

Hello,

I am sorry for what you’ve been put through. I would like to help you in rebuilding yourself as I myself am going to a similar phase.

Personally for me what really helped me was having close friends who I could trust and had virtues I wanted to reflect. As well as having role models with characteristics I admired and wanted to implement in myself. Finally journaling all your negative interactions and writing down what you experienced thought felt etc. Read it over daily and you will make small changes.

It has taken me approximately 2 to 3 years to recover and I did so with the help of my 2 best friends male and one female. I’m not sure how to give advice on this ... if you need help we can talk it out rather than writing potential parallel universe story plots.

Another huge motivator for me to improve my life is the YouTube channel peace and harmony found below.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Dl4bPl3u8oU

One of my role models is 2pac. If you are interested there are a lot of interviews and he speaks clearly passionately philosophically for someone who had very little education. His music is an inspiration to me. And no I don’t go around shooting shit with my nerf guns. That’s just me.

Finally journaling was one of the biggest factors that led to my change. I saw I was repeating the same mistakes over and over again. Nobody can help you except yourself.

I hope you find what you are looking for and get better. Feel free to reach out to me if you need anything.

Take care brother

Title	help?
Author	Ghostoflight4637
Upvotes	12
Comments	17
Date	May 3, 2019 4:14 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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