"We both have an issue with being totally non-confrontational. We avoid things instead of talking them through. The fact we barely had any sex since our marriage (like certainly not 5 times) is something we never discuss."

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"Fast forward to last weekend - we're both happily married (as I thought). She is constantly texting or writing emails on her phone when we're watching TV or stuff, which is annoying but she said that has something to do with work. Also, she never keeps her phone out of sight and is very nervous me touching her phone or laptop, but she's always been that way and I always turned my eyes the other way."

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"Now today, when she left off for work (I was working from home today), I started to read these texts. I learned a lot there... I am still not done with all of the photos I took (about 60), but I read a lot of the discussions that were going on the end of last week. (...) In the more than 600 texts they share over 3 days that I read so far, they talk about when she was going to see him at a place both called "home" (certainly not my home), how they would get married at some point and how nice it was to be held in each other's arms."

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I still didn't confront her - partially because I am really scared of losing my marriage and being all alone, and partially because I feel dirty about the breaking of her privacy. What I did do though, was that I told her that I feel she has a lot of things on her mind and that I was always there for her.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/9lfx9p/my_40m_wife_32f_for_6_years_has_been_cheating_on/

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