He sounds like a bum but she sounds like a bitch...

Throwaway account.

Last week I sold my boyfriends Xbox and 6 of his games for £400.

I did this because for the last two months he has been depending on me financially, despite the fact I (f20) am a student who can hardly provide for myself.

I work a part time job while studying because my student loans don’t cover the cost of living.

Meanwhile, my boyfriend (M22) has been out of a job for two months and lives in a flat by himself. In those two months he has put almost no effort into finding a new job. Instead he was spending all his time playing on his Xbox, literally depending on me for money.

Last week I just kinda lost it, I was fed up of him putting no effort into getting money, and I didn’t want to pay for another months rent, so I instead sold his Xbox and games without his consent in order to pay his rent.

I do feel guilty but I’m hoping at least someone understands my reasoning. AITA?

*Edit 1 Why didn’t I communicate like an adult?

I tried talking through with him like an adult on numerous occasions. I tried explaining that I can’t afford to keep paying for his food, bills, rent and everything else he needs to get by. He has borderline nothing in the bank account. Every single time I talked to him about his job search or tried talking to him, he would shrug it off, he never put any effort into the conversation. It was always a case of ‘yeah yeah I’ll start looking tomorrow’ or ‘yeah I know’ ‘yeah’. He never stared looking for a job as far as I knows.

I felt like him being on his Xbox was the sole reason, wasting all his time on that instead of productively searching for jobs. I did use the money for rent because it was due, and he would’ve had nothing to pay for it, but also because I thought it would be good to have that distraction out of his life.

*Edit 2 Why didn’t you just let him get evicted?

I didn’t want him to become homeless. He isn’t that close to his parents and so can not rely on moving into their home. I think losing an Xbox is way better than becoming homeless.

*Edit 3 I know what I did was illegal and theft. See last point from edit 2. My boyfriend was furious when he found out I sold his Xbox, but he never bought up charges, he never said he would sue or report to the police - he knows that he depends on me financially.

*Edit 4 Yes I understand this is theft, no need to keep repeating it in every single comment.

Saying that I think I will break up with him soon. I say this because so many of these comments have been saying dump him

*Edit 5 My last edit sounded way worse than I intended. I said I think I will, I didn’t say when. I don’t mean right now right this second and leave him with nothing. I read pretty much every single comment on this post, and a lot of things mentioned made me realise I can’t keep on living with someone literally leeching off of me. I’ll end up just as broke as him if I continue at this rate. I have already spent near 2K on him in the last few months - digging through the little I have saved since I started working part time at age 14.

AITA? Yep I am