Reality is malleable.

This is what true alchemists understood. Alchemy wasn't actually about the physical transformation of lead into gold. It was metaphor for the allegorical transformation of peasant into king. Just like the philosopher's stone wasn't an actual stone. It was a philosophy of transcendence. This process goes by many names - enlightenment, self-mastery, actualization - but the underlying principle is the same. Transcending your current mode of being into a higher level of consciousness where you are in full control of your fate.

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As I stated in my last post, perception is reality. But perception is imperfect, and is at best an estimation. The landscape you see when you open your eyes is constructed inside your mind based upon various wavelengths of light stimulating your senses at the same time.

As living beings, we are co-creators of this shared hallucination we term reality. You are inexorably connected to the world around you in a way that is difficult to fully understand. You are not just a ghost in the shell, getting tossed around by the chaotic waves of existence. Whether you know it or not, your actions and perceptions shift the course in a deep way. You have within you the power to shape the world around you. If only you should learn to see your limitations for what they truly are.

Elephants get tied down by leashes that prevent them from moving when they are young. Adult elephants get tied by the same small leashes and don't even attempt to move, because that original limiting force was all they had ever known. All it would take for them is a few steps forward and they could break free. But they don't. Because they accept their limitations and refuse to challenge their conditioning.

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What does it really mean to take the Red Pill? Let's take a closer look at the inspiration for the concept.

After accepting the opportunity to see how deep the rabbit hole goes, Neo wakes up to the realization that he lives in The Matrix. Reality wasn't as constrained as he was led to believe. There were ways of manipulating the world that he had always thought were impossible. Understanding this mind-blowing concept allowed Neo the ability to transcend his old conceptions and assumptions. When prompted, he took his leap of faith off the first building and... fell straight to the ground.

Taking the red pill is only the beginning. Once you see the nature of reality for what it truly is, you must learn how to manipulate it to serve your ends. Morpheus warns Neo that once he makes his decision, there is no going back. He has a responsibility to master the art of reality bending. "There's a difference between knowing the path and walking the path."

How does the psychic bend the metal spoon? He doesn't harness some ethereal Qi to physically fold the spoon into itself. He saw within his mind that the spoon was already bent. His psychological frame was so developed, the world could bend to his will. This is what you must learn to do.

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So where does this leave us? As the focus of this community is based upon sexual dynamics (although I believe the concepts here can be expanded elsewhere), we may apply this reality-bending ability to our social relationships.

So much of the 48 laws of power revolve around managing perceptions. This is crucial. Perception is reality. This can't be overstated. When you maintain the perception of strength and stability you will be treated with respect and reverence. But the only way to manage this indefinitely is to actually develop yourself into an authentically powerful person. The way this translates into attraction is through frame.

One of my favorite posts on here is "Women are Attracted to Transcendent Men" (link got removed) because it elaborates on the idea that what makes men so attractive to women is that we are transcendent. We do not have to conform to social norms. We can play life by our rules. We can master our emotions. We can grow our skills and dominate hierarchies. We are much better at this than women, and I think they may secretly envy us for it. But nevertheless, it is so undeniably attractive because a truly transcendent man has no limitations, and will do what he wishes, with or without her.

The "Getting Laid like a Warlord" post also touched on this as well. A transcendent man basically has a reality distortion field around him that is so charming, all surrounding participants unconsciously surrender to his frame.

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The two major components of frame are strength and composure. Millions of years of evolutionary pressure have selected against psychological and physical weakness and instability. Calmess and confidence in the face of potential danger and uncertainty were essential for survival in the tumultuous throes of primordial existence.

Reality is like water. It ebbs and flows like a river. When the waters of reality swell into an unpredictable storm, those with a weaker psychological frame cling to the strong for stability, safety, and direction. Women (and other followers) follow protaganists. Those characters who take an active role in shaping their existence.

So much of the world wishes for you to be a passive consumer. Powerful interests wish to siphon your energy and attention to serve their own ends. This passivity makes you into livestock. You get poked and prodded along by those who own the farm, not ever knowing your true potential.

To be "Alpha" you must act, you must create, you must do. Taking an active role in your life is essential to breaking out of your conditioning. You must never become a victim of circumstance. Your psychological frame must reference from an internal locus of control. Developing this strong frame of reference requires transcending your old conceptions of reality and role within it.

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We all know how it goes in life. Women are born, men are made. This may seem at first unfair, but it is actually your greatest opportunity. As you develop your abilities, discover successes, and dominate your fields of interest, your frame will become so unshakeable that reality will simply bend in your favor effortlessly. 

Understand and apply the concepts taught on the sidebar and useful posts. Learn from your trials and errors. As you continue to navigate the chaos of sexual relationships, you will begin to see the structure of the social matrix and will be able to bend the metaphorical spoon whichever way you please. Because the real truth is, the spoon doesn't exist. Your limitations can be transcended. Reality is malleable and your psychological frame of reference is the key to controlling it.

"I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it."