I’m getting ready to divorce the love of my life.

2,239 points216 commentssubmitted by Lostboyfromnvrland to r/offmychest

I’ve been married almost 9 years, together for 13. We have three wonderful children. I was blindsided by an affair my wife was having with my good friend. I had no idea.

Last year I bought her the house of her dreams, and a new Polaris rzr just before this happened. I never knew anything was up.

One night, she went to have dinner with a friend, and didn’t say she loved me when she left, which was very unusual. We always kissed goodbye before I went to work, and always said we loved each other before we went our separate ways. I looked in find my friends, and seen she was at his house. I called to ask what was going on, and she said we need to talk when we get home.

Fast forward 3 months later, and I’m sitting here, without my family in an empty home. I’ve been medicated, and seeing a therapist once a week. And it’s helped.

I’m going to lose my family and be financially ruined. I’m looking at 4700-5100/month in child care and alimony. Even with 50/50 custody.

She shows no remorse for what she’s done, and I’m terrified to see her when we meet to pick up the kiddos.

I don’t know what’s going to happen next. I’m just scared, and destroyed. People say life goes on, but this was my life. I lived for my family.