I'm read in as much as the next guy I think, so please forgive me if I have missed a sidebar topic already covered. Some random thoughts to ponder that I haven't seen a lot of lately.

  1. The n-count. This number is probably the most important attribute you have to measure suitability of a potential partner. I sincerely believe that a woman subconsciously wants to be with a man that has an n-count of at least 10X more than her. She wants to be the pristine and un-busted one, and your higher count indicates your high value in the sexual marketplace. As they say, there is no greater predictor of success than past success.
    Here is the thing though, I don't like bringing it up. Yes, I do need to know that data point, but the minute I sense a lie I have to pretty much write off the relationship. Women who lie about their n-count, whether it just be "I was drunk it didn't count" or "He only pounded and jizzed in my ass that doesn't count" are exhibiting AWALT, and when that happens all the rest of the future bad behavior can be expected. Further, when she asks me MY n-count I refuse to lie, and inevitably when I tell her the number that you would expect from a guy who brings what I bring to the table she reacts with shock like I'm some kind of truck stop lot lizard. Lady, do you think I'm going to have what I got going and the work that I put into my frame/build and do nothing with it? Lady, would you want to be with a guy that would only be able to manage a low n-count? Deep down they need your n-count to be much higher than her, but her hamster will give her fear that you will be forever seeking that next tick on the scale. These women would never actually respect a man with a low n-count, but will react with self serving "revulsion" to the guy that gives them tingles and a logical "high/not high" n-count.
    My preference is to just not have the topic come up, and soon I will be able to predict just by knowing her what her n-count will be. By that time I am afraid to ask because, again, I think she will lie out of fear. Women are fearful creatures when it comes to abandonment. My "hope" is that by the time the idea of having kids come up her actions will be able to tell me just as well how loyal she will be as actually knowing her n-count. There have been many times in my life where I sense that the people around me want me to lie about a topic, and will readily jump in and believe whole heartedly when I lie about a topic, and the n-count is one of them. I legitimately believe that when they ask me my n-count it is merely checking off a box that they really don't want a correct answer to. They want me to juke the stats. But I won't. It is skeezy to lie about such things.
    As a similar hypothetical example of this phenomena from our side I guess: Say you are dating this nice woman and its going great. Things are wonderful. Then she shares that growing up her dad molested her repeatedly and her mother attacked her as being a liar when she tried to tell someone about the abuse. She is irreparably damaged and you are extremely pissed. By the time you start developing feelings for a women you start getting a sense of owning a valuable asset, and when someone has damaged that asset you can't let it stand. You can't be a man and just let that slide. Before you knew this little tidbit, when you were ignorant and happy, life was great. Now you know, and a buuuuuunch of little pieces fall into place to prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that what she says is true. You got to do something. You know what you have to do. But crap. You have a job, no criminal record... You have a bright future. How to you address this glaring injustice without unethical behavior? The new girlfriend is adamant that her secret not get out. She would be suicidal if anyone knew her shame. So.. going to the authorities is out. And so, by this example we get the knee jerk reaction to "Lie to me (if even by omission), I would prefer that." And yet....my women always ask me my n-count. Always. They have to know the answer and they ask me anyway. Do women prefer men that will lie to them? Because I have to say, the friends of mine with the most success with women always lied to their girlfriends. Every time. I just don't want to do it.
    What does the hive mind think? Is avoiding the n-count conversation a weak dodge or can it work?

  2. Alpha/Beta/Omega.

Alpha is the goal and it is in our sexually seeking nature to put effort into as many sex partners as possible. Alphas bring out the best in women. Alphas know what they want, and when they behave honorably and not like a PUA they are the role model to all boys growing up. They want sex and openly seek it out, which women appreciate. Alphas that honestly tell a woman they are only a plate will have a woman that respects them and hopes for more. PUAs that lie to a woman and treat them like shit ruin the playing field for all that come after. PUAs are weasily, skeezy, sacks of shit who damage the valuable resource we so eagerly mine all day long. Without PUAs women would probably be as easy to approach as tame deer at a petting zoo. Because there are PUAs, women behave like.... well, regular deer. Alphas and PUAs are mortal enemies because they play by entirely different rules. If Brandon Stark was an Alpha, Petyr Baelish is a PUA.

While we don't respect Betas and don't trust them much to raise our boys, they do have the admirable quantity of also wanting to seek sex, and fairly openly declaring their intent to orbit around hoping nothing better comes along. While they are to be looked down upon, they follow the same rules as do Alphas, for the most part. We have all felt ourselves slipping beta when we are with an improbably hot girl that you think may have a shot with before reminding yourself, once again, that demonstrating any beta traits will get you friend zoned fast. While we don't think Beta's should exist, we don't spike the football in their faces for losing honorably using the same rule book.

Omegas are the wild card I'm looking for input on. The stereotype of an Omega is that they are just the bottom of the barrel that are too lazy to lift or work on themselves to achieve their sexual goals. There is truth to this. Of course there is. But I think there is a class of Omega that has simply received the wrong conditioning. The pursuit of the woman. The nonchalant passing by of 9 rejections so that you can get that one success is supposed to be fun. It is supposed to be like hunting in the forest, or fly fishing. If you shoot a deer and miss you should be excited that you got the shot, not humiliated that the deer was spooked. But... the pursuit of plates to spin often comes with drama, and for many of us, we simply hate drama. The angry white knights, the spurned plates that bad mouth you when they don't get picked, the discarded plates that create drama when they are upgraded to a newer model. It is uncomfortable. It can be embarrassing. It is almost ghetto sometimes. Seeking out, and acquiring, sex is so normal and natural it seems unjust that it should be so damn stressful. You know the deal, you start hooking up with a new plate and you worry, does she have a husband I have to deal with? Am I going to be cast as the home wrecking piece of shit that mommy slept with to get back at daddy who ignores her? I suspect there are a lot of Omega types who just looked into the eye of a marketplace that has shown to be liable to evolve into a jerry springer level of unpredictable drama and just tell themselves that nothing that is so normal, evolutionary, and right should be so unnecessarily stressful and dramatic. They sideline themselves.

What do we think about best practices in avoiding drama while still seeking to spin those plates? Do we have to be detectives that look in back car seats for child safety seats or for jewelry worn that a potential plate probably could not have bought for herself? Every Alpha hits a point where they ask themselves if all this uncertainty and drama is worth the variety of partners... my wish is to remind Alphas why seeking Omega is not a way out.

  1. The importance of letting the woman know you want her.

In school from the earliest days we saw boys that would say things to girls like "So when are we getting together?" "When are you going to spend time with me." and so on. For most of us, we saw these clumsy statements as crass and the height of douchebaggery. But...... those uncouth boys had learned one thing: The most effective means of seduction is letting a woman know you are interested in that way. It is the key to avoid getting friend zoned and placed instead in a position of potential sexual partner. While we wouldn't use this particularly classless way of finding plates today, there certainly was an efficiency to the technique. Those women who shut the boys down had no more time wasted on them. Those that showed some receptiveness... well... now we got a stew going.

From those early days we learn that attraction is different with women. As a man, when I see an attractive woman I want to have sex with her. Immediately. I don't weigh the pros and cons, I just know what my urge tells me. With women it is slightly different. If a woman sees an attractive man she doesn't get much in the way of tingles. A woman typically gets the most tingles when she sees another man "lusting" after her. I don't mean Weinstein jerking off in a planter here, I'm talking about a look or an interaction that makes a woman think "Oh..... Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh!" Their tingles come from knowing a man wants them. I could be wrong, but the most success I seem to have is when I plant the seed of sexual lust in a woman such that they turn it around and around in their brain until they start imagining a future where I'm all up in there: "Wow he wants to fuck me. Go me. Hmm.. what would that be like? You know he is actually pretty cool and taller than me. What is he seeing in me that he wants so bad? My face? Body? I want to ask him. I would never have really paid him any attention before but now I'm curious. Oh crap I just had a dream about having sex with him last night...." and so on.

So here now is the dilemma that we need to find a good answer for. You are going to meet a lot of your potential plates in a work or other social setting that precludes overt signals such as steering the conversation to sex or porn or an overlong eye lock "cruise." There needs to be a good way to communicate that you are alpha and you like to fuck AND you have now placed that woman on your radar as a potential sexual partner.... all without any semblance at all of impropriety. I believe that the new hyper vigilance against sex harassment in the work force is a very good and necessary thing, BUT, it will come with side effects that can be exploited. When you shut off ALL flirting and alpha mate signaling out of fear, women become cut off from that constant validation that they had come to rely on. As an easy example, women who get attention walking down the street hate it.... until they don't get it anymore. Whistles on the street is too overt (and piggishly wrong... does that ever work? Whistle at a broad and she runs over and drops to her knees for you?) but women will start missing out on the other forms of attraction that they used to take for granted.

I believe the answer is still the same as it ever was. Let the women know through casual conversation that you are not a man who seeks out friendship with women with no ulterior motive, then seek out their friendship. No one is going to claim sex harassment if you are just an engaging and friendly guy with the women around you. But, the fears of sex harassment will cause the casual dilettantes in the world of Red Pill to drop away, making the rewards ever more abundant. Tell me what you think? Is the best strategy for planting the knowledge that you want to have sex with a woman to just be seeking ever more constant "friendly" encounters while making it clear that you are not a guy that has any "just friends" that are women? We are looking for that moment of "This guy sure includes me in a lot of fun stuff. I like him. He has had a lot of girlfriends. He sure gets around. So he wants to be friends with me too. Oh. Ohhhhhhhhhhh......"