I just feel so alone

Badthrowaway2928 · 2018-08-17T00:17:46+00:00

Hey I give a fuck. As long as you're a MGTOW brother, I'll always care.

Oldschool085 · 2018-08-16T23:44:53+00:00

Things can turn around for you. Get out and join a group or club. Try to meet people.

neoreeves · 2018-08-17T00:05:05+00:00

You mention all the time that "no one gives a fuck about you/ you could die no one would care". That's the source of your sadness, you're seeking for approval of others, why would you do that if you already said " this world simply gives no fucks about you"? You're in pain because you try to find your happiness in someone else and to tell you the truth all of us in this sub tried to do it once... It's a waste of time, people usually hurt each other saying good things about you and then start saying BS about you when you leave the place...

I suggest you to try to know thyself, think about things you like to do, find hobbies and start doing it. You should seek your own approval "Am I doing it as best as I can?". Your hapiness is inside yourself buddy, no one else can make you happy but yourself, what other people can do is try to judge and to hurt you, but only if you let them...

I can tell that I was the opposite of you, I had a lot of people around me, but I found my happiness being by myself and enjoying my solitude.

___

It's not a bad thing ask for help, even from someone you don't know that well. I don't know any of these guys here, but we shared almos all the same experiences, so it's good to learn from them and see how they found their own happiness.

it-does-not-matter69 · 2018-08-16T23:44:59+00:00

I love you man. Your gonna fine. Better days man.

roxon89 · 2018-08-16T23:50:51+00:00

How old are ? Do you work? What are your interests or hobbies?

CalvinRichland · 2018-08-16T23:55:34+00:00

Go your own way doesn't mean no guy friends. Pick a fun social hobby and go do it. Any ideas?

Macalurs · 2018-08-17T02:08:57+00:00

You'll come out of it, and when you do, you'll be unstoppable.

Remember, this is your cross. Ancient tribes used to cut their kids hundred times across their backs to make them crocodile tough, some would release the boy into the wild, Spartan style, have them get chased by tigers. For teens in some cultures they had to kill a wild animal and drag it to the square. Some had to kill an enemy with a sword and bring home his head. Thus is the rite of passage into manhood. This is your rebirth.

Remember to have some love in your heart. Everyone one hits rock bottom. It just seems sad as fuck because you have more screens to tell you how fucked up everyone feels. Every animal on this planet, every single organism goes through some Fucked up shit.

This is the path to forgiving yourself and everything. Once you can understand this you're free.

Look up Alan Watts.

MenGoingTOWin · 2018-08-17T00:04:28+00:00

Do not seek your validation without. Find it within.

Forgive yourself for the way that you are.

urban_hermit91 · 2018-08-17T02:27:12+00:00

I don't know what to say so I will just post a link of monkeys getting a bath :

https://youtu.be/zAga1vRNmj4

Anyway I have been through the same emotions as you. I reached out for help where I knew i would be respected and it was very beneficial.

Good luck!

ketochef1969 · 2018-08-17T04:04:32+00:00

Humans are naturally social animals, so it's not healthy for you to be too seperate from other people. If you can involve yourself with groups of like-minded individuals, you will be able to have kinship and friendships with them.

Find a hobby or an activity that you like and explore the social side of it. Join a mentoring group and get mentored, then turn it around and mentor others. Share your life with other people and let them share yours.

Just because some people who GTOW are Lone Wolves, doesn't mean you need to be packless forever.

LeGrosTabarnak · 2018-08-17T00:05:28+00:00

I can die right now and it wouldn’t mean shit to anybody.

That's what I thought when I was at my most depressive. The problem is not that your assertion is false, the problem is that you were never taught to live for yourself.

2018-08-17T00:27:17+00:00

Get into personal development. Watch Leo's stuff from actualized.org. Your problem is mostly your perception that being alone is so "bad" that society drilled into you from a young age. You have three choices... change the way you perceive reality so that you are happy being alone, do something about your loneliness to fix the problem.. the red pill stuff they teach, or sit and mope about it which will only intensify your emotional state and accomplish nothing productive.

If you want to IM and tell me more about yourself, go ahead.

astuteglute · 2018-08-17T01:25:07+00:00

Men can do anything. I frolic at the side of a river in search of fish.

Stfu. Go to a place and do a thing maybe bring some stuff eventually someone will be there. Introduce yourself talk about logical things in a nonsensical manner.

Dontgetmadbud · 2018-08-17T02:12:24+00:00

Just focus on your interests. Develop new ones, make some goals, and work at them. Stay focused on who you want to be, and less on how you feel right now.

Ultimately you have little control over what life throws at you, you do however have the power to control how you react to any given situation.

Focus on the positive. Forget about all the bullshit and take back control of your future

marcopoloman · 2018-08-17T05:50:34+00:00

Be your own person. Get out of town for the weekend. Drive somehere, get a hotel eat a steak. Go hiking, swimming etc. Get moving around and treat yourself I do this every 2 months. Headed to Thailand in 5 days.

Message me anytime if you want to chat or vent. I'm 44 and divorced 3 years ago. Did the lonely, depressed etc crap for a while. Then pushed to change myself. Promise you.ife is awesome.

it-does-not-matter69 · 2018-08-16T23:43:42+00:00

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pantsu_kamen · 2018-08-17T00:55:12+00:00

The internet in general may not be the healthiest place to communicate, but lack of interaction and other stimulation leads to depression. The strange thing about depression is that it can make a life which is pretty luxurious compared to most of the world and the rest of of human history seem as though it's unbearable, whereas people who don't even have food or clean water can still manage to be content, all because of the levels of certain chemicals in the brain.

I get the impression you don't seem to care all that much about others, yet it seems you're holding them, the world, and God responsible for not giving you what you deny them. Perhaps I'm mistaken about that but it's a surprisingly common attitude nowadays, and I'm only pointing out the possibility because thinking that way is not good.

For example, you mention that you've never HAD many friends, as opposed to, you've never MADE very many friends. Even if you don't have the mental energy to play an active role in your own life due to some past trauma or something, at least understanding that the potential to change your own circumstances still exists can be a source of hope for the future. It might seem like you always have felt and always will feel this way, but again, that's usually just the brain misfiring.

it-does-not-matter69 · 2018-08-17T01:59:25+00:00

You’re right about several things. Honestly my man I’m just use to running away from my problems and when I’m sober and not smoking weed that’s when I feel the most alone. I know got several things to work on but I’m keeping my head up for now

ImAnIronmanBtw · 2018-08-17T02:37:57+00:00

go work 60 hours a week with a skill / trade and make a shit ton of money and realize that you'll be too busy and have too many fun toys to enjoy to give a shit.

dravenrayne777 · 2018-08-17T04:50:47+00:00

Yea man. What are your dreams? Your desires? Sports? Art? Music? Tinkering? What can you see happening that will make you happy as fuck? That's a good first step. It's about YOU. fuck everyone else. If it's selfish who gives a fuck. You have to make yourself happy.identify what will make you smile and be proud...Then slowly build on that. How can I get to where I want to be...Not where others think u should be. Be strong brother. We will listen okay?

veganhitler · 2018-08-17T10:53:59+00:00

This helped me out. http://en.falundafa.org

Hope things work out for you.

2MetresAbove · 2018-08-17T13:07:38+00:00

You know how in the Bible after 7 lean years, the fat years eventually came? Do not loose hope, nothing in this life is permanent. Not even your suffering. Do whatever you can to better yourself little by little. GYOW and never go back. It is the only way to preserve your integrity, independence and solitude.

Macblunts · 2018-08-18T09:20:40+00:00

Brother, work on your body and mind. It looks like (from your replies) that you do work out and generally have a physically healthy life-style. That is something that a lot of the people in the world do not have have. You are, in fact, a better person than them.

You will be able to survive the apocalypse. You are smart. You are resourceful. Focus on those aspects of life, be a good person and happiness will creep back into your life.

it-does-not-matter69 · 2018-08-18T15:37:02+00:00

Turn pro or be a coach in either boxing or mma.

an0naly · 2018-08-17T12:57:55+00:00

You should read The Power of Now. It’s often treated as just a new age book but it’s a very sober analysis of how the mind works and drives us to madness and depression for very avoidable reasons.

Yes, it is also a book about the merits of meditation. So if you’re not willing to give that a try, I don’t know what to tell you.

Meaning is contingent on awareness. The impersonal world or universe might not care about you... but do you really care?

You don’t care that rocks have no opinion of you. So the impersonal aspect of reality has no impact on your self worth.

Only a conscious being like you can impart meaningfulness to the world around YOU.

And even so, who you think you are is not you but only the construct your mind has made about your life. It’s no more as real as the image you make up of a fictional character when reading a book.

Let go of ego and you’ll find that simple awareness of your being can actually be a source of contentment and even compassion for others around you.

And being so constituted, you may find that developing friendships becomes easier.

Or not. You’ll be detached enough to not worry about it.

Just my opinion.

P.S. Many misinterpret the book to suggest planning for the future or having goals are somehow bad. Of course not.

But when you operate out of the present, the quality of your work improves in correlation to the increase of your attention, and so goals become easier to accomplish.

Title	I just feel so alone
Author	it-does-not-matter69
Upvotes	15
Comments	41
Date	August 16, 2018 11:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/97xdu8/i_just_feel_so_alone/
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