For a women, divorce is a net positive- financially.

They can hamster 'how hard the divorce is on me emotionally' 'crying to sleep each day' 'so lonely' to make them the victim but the summary is she benefits when everything is tallied.

This automatically means the man is the loser.

My point is, even when she is happily married the threat of divorce implied either directly or indirectly can be used as a bargain plank which also makes a married man's life miserable.

Let's say the man want to buy a new gadget; ladylove will jokingly say 'I would divorce him if he does that!'

Not only is the man not getting something that makes him happy but he also gotta placate the annoyed wife with a dinner or some distraction because 'he made her feel upset'.

Then things get back to normalcy in some time but the animal has tasted blood and will strike again, choosing from the carefully collected/crafted set of emotional exploitation tools.

Don't marry.