tl;dr - stopped licking the ass of a friend of mine and he went on a full on tantrum (thankfully it was over the phone) and called me ugly and stupid and hanged up

He is the typical sociopath psychopath who just wants people to admire him. Also I am 24 and he is 30. (it shouldn't matter). So he always interrupts me and rants and makes me feel like crap in subtle ways. Few days ago I started living by these 2 rules :

  1. Whatever I like comes first. (as in i don't want to listen to your bullshit, pretend that you are smarteR than me or be interrupted and talked over, neglected and et cetera, play video games just because you want to, come over to chill just because you want to).
  2. If you don't like it, stop hanging out with me.

So he can interrupt me, disregard my opinions, "joke" with me and fish for compliments from me but at the same time I can't even begin to do those things. So from 3 days ago i simply started going my own way when it comes to men too. I started disagreeing with him; when he would interrupt me i would say that he did it; i would continue to challenge his reasoning when we are debating (more like his one sided talk where he claims insane things like reptiles brainwashing us and like that) ; i would always say what is on my mind without calling him bad names, i would just not bend over.

Result - He yelled at me that I am stupid and ugly at the same time but I somehow have confidence, wished my death and was generally triggered for 5 minutes straight yelling at me to which I laughed all the time and said to him that I will beat him at Chess and score higher on IQ tests to which he just started yelling even louder without accepting my chess challenge. He hanged up, wrote me a message that I am ugly and stupid again and I should go fuck myself. I replied "sorry, you are stronger and more beautiful but not smarter. I also want to stop hanging out with you because you are taking me for a listener while thinking you are doing me a favor with your rants."

Another friend of mine who swore as my brother stopped answering my messages completely without telling me whats wrong on the 2nd day (yesterday) since I stopped bending over to his needs which is replying to the stupid things he call me because he thinks they are funny even tho they are offensive to me. Stopped playing the computer game together whenever he wants. Started calling him on his bullshit when he would promise to come on time but he would be late. I am guessing it's over with him too. And that is a childhood best friend.

I just got rid of 2 toxic, abusive people who are just like my parents who conditioned me to be a doormat.

Feels good.