I'm divorced, 43 and no kids. I know 43 isn't old, but when it comes to TRP and dating/mating/sexual strategies, there are huge differences between guys my age and the crop of 20~30 year old men navigating this f'd up SMP/MMP.

For background, I guess you could say I started on what Athol Kay would call the MAP about a year before I divorced. Hit the gym, lost weight, stopped being an emotional tampon for my ex. Just like Athol would say, the MAP will save your relationship or hasten its demise, but either way you will be healthier and in a better position in the end. I found the Red Pill blogs the week I filed for divorce. Now, almost a year after separation/divorce I will say TRP has changed my view of M/F relationships. I am amazed at the amount of Churchian Blue Pill I swallowed, the all the misplaced loyalty to what I thought was Marriage 1.0 and a truly immature, selfish and awful spouse.

So in the last 8 or so months I've spun some plates, run my N up by 6, with 4 of those being escalated from meeting in person to a fuck close in 4 hours or less. Granted, most of those are 5~6s, but my first close was a nice 8. My last plate, 15 years my Junior, actually called me a selfish jerk when she stormed out one day..to which I was happy to be rid of her drama, tho I expect a call in a month or so ;).

I've come a long way from the long suffering blue pill beta nice guy.

Over all I would say I am doing pretty well. Sure, I have my Beta moments...I don't escalate some women aggressively enough, and I can be slow on the kiss phase, but I get results. I realize I have SMV to spare on women 6 and below if there is any attraction spark. I also am starting to cull 5s and move to 7~8s as my confidence grows.

Because of my age and location in a small metro (~100k population) most of the women I meet have kids, It doesn't help I live in an oil boom area and male competition for anything with two XX chromosomes can be tight. You don't want to know how entitled the average single mom is in my town.

I follow all the TRP advice when dealing with them, and it has worked out OK, but they never seem to last more than a couple of months and it is getting tiring dealing with them.

So, here's what I'm trying to learn are some older man soft harem building tips in smallish towns. Or any wisdom from the older TRP crowd on how we navigate this SMP.