Need advice

Housuaq · 2018-07-11T18:52:59+00:00

Some men will never get over the need for female approval and validation. Can't help everyone.

WolfUbuntu117 · 2018-07-11T19:03:46+00:00

We cna be friends. DM me and I'll reply back. I'm a guy who is also going through what you are going through. I just left my girlfriend in exchange of freedom starting from today

2018-07-11T19:45:02+00:00

You must increase your "Thing-validation" in order to decrease "female validation." Thing-validation (Stardusk's term) can include lots of things: logic, reason, math, science, art, music, computers, building stuff, sports, exploration, learning, working out, body building, traveling, and so on.

But at the end of the day the problem is lack of internal validation. The social conditioning is too strong, telling you that you are a lonely loser. All the negative thinking is a feedback loop that keeps going on and on. It takes time to get over it. It's like kicking an addiction, and rewiring your brain. It'll come back over and over again, and every time you must resist it and tell yourself that you are worthy of being just by existing. You must always remind yourself that society cares about the collective and not the individual, and does its best to coerce us to become cogs in the machine, to marry and reproduce, to support the state and so on.

You must love yourself and be at peace with yourself at a base level JUST FOR EXISTING, nothing more. Then you can continue to build internal validation upon that, which becomes unshakable under the worst treatments or conditions. You must say "even if I get zero approval from society, I am a human being worthy of existing." Just imagine people who have it way worse than you, and somehow manage to maintain their dignity and self respect. If they can do it, so can you. I believe reading Victor Frankl might be of help.

tinysackbigshaft · 2018-07-11T20:28:00+00:00

Do this: look forward tunnel vision. Like a fuckin robot. Don't look at anybody. It'll be great resistance at first But it will work

DrFeelFantastic · 2018-07-11T19:03:48+00:00

How old are you? And is it just sex you crave? Or for females to vocally agree with your points of view on a, b, and c?

westnblue · 2018-07-11T21:07:03+00:00

No matter what you do in life you will have doubts.

Look ahead at someone who did what you want to do 5, 10 or 20years. If you like what you see then do it. otherwise run.

Title	Need advice
Author	danzower
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	July 11, 2018 6:50 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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